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    Default Supporting a adult child

    I am just putting it out there.

    I have a adult child. I support her in all her decisions. She is my child and her turning 18 doesn't mean I stop wanting the best for her. It does however mean i have to give up control of her life and let her make her own decisions.

    If she decides to have a baby, i will support her

    If she decides to uni and do her masters I will support her

    If she decides to drop out of uni and become a artist i will support her

    If she decides to dye her hair purple and sing for a living i will support her.

    Yes I don't always agree with her choices but it is her life and not mine. Yes I will try to guide her but I will always support her and i will always be here for no matter what.

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    Couldn't agree more

    With all your post & threads I have read on here you sound like a loving amazing supportive mum

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    You sound like a wonderful mother. Whilst I may not ''agree'' with what my kids end up doing at 18, i'd rather support them and have them in my life than not.

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    But isn't there a big difference between supporting and actively encouraging something? I get what you mean, OP but I wonder when I have adult children how much I will be able to *actively* encourage some of their decisions. I know when I was 18 I was capable of many more stupid decisions than I am now. 18 is legally an adult but developmentally many 18 year olds are still not fully adult.

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    My father told me the day I turned 18 that my life was mine to live as I choose and that my mistakes were mine to make. He made it very clear that even if he didn't agree with or like what I wanted to do, as long as it was legal I would always have his support.

    I'll never forget that talk and I don't think he ever knew what an impact it made on me.

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    I'm going to be that PITA poster that people hate, and just say, "you have 'an' adult child".

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    I'm going to be that PITA poster that people hate, and just say, "you have 'an' adult child".

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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    But isn't there a big difference between supporting and actively encouraging something? I get what you mean, OP but I wonder when I have adult children how much I will be able to *actively* encourage some of their decisions. I know when I was 18 I was capable of many more stupid decisions than I am now. 18 is legally an adult but developmentally many 18 year olds are still not fully adult.
    yes and no

    Ok I hate dd choice in uni degrees but I sit and listen and try to understand, even when it takes everything in me not to scream this is a bunch of rubbish. I help her by being a sounding board and I encourage her in her studies and i send her links to articles that maybe a interest to her. I do everything I can to help her succeed in it.
    So I actively encourage her as part of my support.

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