I’m not a parent as yet, but my current belief in how my DH and I will parent includes strong relationships with extended family – as in spending regular time with Grandparents and cousins etc as well as occasional baby sitting from trusted friends. I guess this relates to my upbringing whereby I spent a lot of time with grandparents and the full suite of aunties, uncles, cousins. I am also hoping to raise an adaptable bub which can tolerate new surroundings, situations and trust care givers other than myself and DH.
I often read comments on Bubhub which appear to uphold the view of the nuclear family raising children only and I guess I am wondering whether parents believe there is an expectation to maintain independence? Or is it circumstantial?
How does your family operate? Does it include extended family (or trusted friends) in some parenting activities? And if so, why? Was that natural to you? Or did you have to learn to trust? Slowly release some control?
Or does your family operate independently? And if so, why? Was that natural to you? Is it a strong sense of parental responsibility? Is it fear? The possibility of something going wrong? Perceived expectation? Were you highly optimistic like me, but bub had other ideas?
(Noting that family is obviously not nearby for many people, so its simply not an option).
Lots of questions/thoughts, but I am genuinely intrigued & think its an interesting issue for everyone to share their approach (provided that we don't get views along the lines of 'my way is best').