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    Default I really struggle to like my dad ...

    And just when I think I'm starting to be a little closer to liking him - he goes and sends me an email like this.

    I'm saddened to admit that my father is a racist homophobic. What he doesn't realise is that contained in that email is one point that completely upsets me on a personal level. The dual citizenship thing. My exH was born in another country and had it not been for him I wouldn't have my gorgeous boys.

    Nice work dad :/
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    Yeah, it can be so hard to like/love people who seem to constantly oppose all that you think is right/just.

    No advice, just

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    That is one offensive email, sorry you received it.

    Maybe reply with; all I want at this time is good will, acceptance and empathy for my fellow man. Do not send me any negative propaganda again, I find it offensive.

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    I think he actually believes all people feel this way. When I was growing up he made it very clear that I was not ever to date a person of colour.

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    My dad is the same. It sucks.

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    I think the hard thing is when you realise you have parents/loved ones that don't get you at all. I can imagine how hurtful that would have been...

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    My mother is the same makes out like I'm an idiot who doesn't know what I'm talking about when I pull her up on horrible stuff

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    My parents are a bit like this, they enjoy racial and homosexual jokes which I hate. I knew I could never change them as that is who they are so I never tried but I did firmly tell them no more offensive emails and definitely no more offensive jokes in my house or around my children and they have respected that and I have never had to tell them again.


 

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