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    Default The art of receiving gifts!

    Help! I just had my dd's first birthday and despite requesting everyone well and truly in advance NOT TO BRING a gift and to bring a 'plate' instead, we still ended up with a massive pile of well - stuff. I just want to know how everyone else deals with the endless accumulation of 'tjings' that seems to come with the raising of kids. I am not trying to sound ungrateful - because I truly am not - but I just cannot stand the amount of clutter that I have to contend with! I have two daughters under 3 and honestly, they don't really need 'stuff.' They have soo many toys, books, clothes etc that I almost feel like I am drowning - And seriously, how many stuffed toys does a person need?!? I did a mental calculation on how many stuffed toys they will have at 18 based on how many we receive per year and I think we might need to extend the house! Trouble is I have hoarding tendencies (I suspect are genetic! ) so getting rid of anything is kind of an issue for me. My girls don't play with a quarter of their toys, though I have them on a rotating system to try to keep them interested & I play with them anyway so make sure we 'pay attention' to everything at least once a week but I am seriously kind of annoyed that no one listened to my request and now I am facing the prospect of finding more storage for items that cost money, were not necessary and despite being from the heart, are simply just nonsense. I wish people would wait to buy gifts for kids when they are older and able to appreciate the thought. I feel giving them away is rude and also, they sort of aren't mine to give anyway.
    So, how do you all 'swim through' the things? How should I manage our newly acquired possessions?
    thanks :-)

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    I personally love giving and receiving gifts, but I know what you mean. My DD is 4mths and has about 20 stuffed toys already.

    I know you said you didn't want to give them away, but have you considered giving them to charity? Maybe wait until Xmas time and put them under the tree at Kmart. You could make some underpriveliged kids very happy! Of course, this'll only work for presents from people who don't visit often/won't notice the toys are missing.

    Another option is returning for store credit or selling on eBay.

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    Teddy bears go in the bin ( I swear they breed too!), things I like go in the cupboard to come out on rainy days etc and things I don't like are donated. No time for clutter and junk.

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    I always insist on a declutter before a birthday. With my older kid we have the one in, one out rule because we simply do not have the room for endless clutter, regardless of well intended and appreciated the gift is.[/QUOTE]

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    I also have family who insist on giving a gift, so I suggest money for DD's bank account, books or gift cards as the best options.

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    Quote Originally Posted by quietlyhopeful View Post
    I personally love giving and receiving gifts, but I know what you mean. My DD is 4mths and has about 20 stuffed toys already.

    I know you said you didn't want to give them away, but have you considered giving them to charity? Maybe wait until Xmas time and put them under the tree at Kmart. You could make some underpriveliged kids very happy! Of course, this'll only work for presents from people who don't visit often/won't notice the toys are missing.

    Another option is returning for store credit or selling on eBay.
    I really like the Christmas present for less fortunate kids idea.
    I'm sure your friends/families would prefer the 'stuff' was appreciated by someone rather than stuck in a cupboard somewhere unused.
    I would if I were them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by quietlyhopeful View Post
    I personally love giving and receiving gifts, but I know what you mean. My DD is 4mths and has about 20 stuffed toys already.

    I know you said you didn't want to give them away, but have you considered giving them to charity? Maybe wait until Xmas time and put them under the tree at Kmart. You could make some underpriveliged kids very happy! Of course, this'll only work for presents from people who don't visit often/won't notice the toys are missing.

    Another option is returning for store credit or selling on eBay.
    The Kmart Xmas tree idea is fabulous!

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    My family has always set the rule
    something to wear
    something to read
    something they want
    something they need

    My mum also used to donate unneeded toys for the Kmart Christmas tree and I also hate stuffed toys!

    My dad was big on buying educational toys which was pretty cool.

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    Donate what you don't need, but this isn't necessarily a few days after you're given them!

    I give clear recommendations for presents now after years of getting huge or noisy or just lots of toys for my ds. I tend to recommend clothes, vouchers (eg. for the zoo, or the movies), and small toys (eg. trains for my ds and for Christmas I'm hoping to get our dd a dolls house and I'll ask for dolls/doll house furniture). I also don't have big parties ... well, that's the new rule after 2 big parties in the last 2 years for my ds when we ended up with heaps of lovely, but unneeded toys!

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    On the invites for next birthday, maybe just kindly ask people to donate to a charity of their choice instead of buying presents, letting them know the kids have plenty already. And then donate the rest to the charity drive =)


 

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