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    Default Gutted for my brother - vent

    My brother is in his early 30's and has a mild intellectual disability and still lives at home with my mum & dad.

    He has had a few friends over the years but sadly most of them seem to use him or manipulate him due to his kind nature. He's quite assertive with his immediate family, but when it comes to friends he has trouble standing up for himself. Most of his friends have also had some form of disability too (Aspergers, Downs etc).

    Anyway, I have just found out one of his best mates has stolen money from his wallet whilst staying at my parents house ($150). There is no plausible other explanation for the money disappearing. This 'friend' has been spending a lot of time hanging out with my brother & parents and has been accepted into their home like family They have been friends for about 3 years, and it's really unexpected and shocking.

    I'm so angry, but mostly so freaking sad that almost every person he has become friends with has screwed him over in some way.

    Now my parents are thinking about how they are going to handle this. This dude is friends with DH & I on Facebook. I feel like getting involved but I'm refraining for now. This blows

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    I'm so sorry Degrassi It's heartbreaking that he is bring taken advantage of. No words of advice, just sharing in your sadness with you.

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    I am so sorry, I know how it feels. I have a sister who gets herself in similar situations. The worst was when she got tangled up with a certain family, and they managed to get her to live with them, stole her pension for years, she had a baby with the son and they also claimed FTB without her knowledge, all kinds of things. It took us 4 years to get her out of there :-(
    There have been plenty of less drastic examples too... Some people are real pri*** when it comes to taking advantage of people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    That is disgusting. I would be livid. Anything that cincerns my family also concerns me. I would be calling h8m immediately. What did your brother say about It?
    I am livid. My mum has asked me not to do or say anything just yet. They are still trying to get their head around it and decide what happens next. My brother is apparently gutted, we all are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zabella View Post
    I am so sorry, I know how it feels. I have a sister who gets herself in similar situations. The worst was when she got tangled up with a certain family, and they managed to get her to live with them, stole her pension for years, she had a baby with the son and they also claimed FTB without her knowledge, all kinds of things. It took us 4 years to get her out of there :-(
    There have been plenty of less drastic examples too... Some people are real pri*** when it comes to taking advantage of people.
    That's terrible. How do these people sleep at night?

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    That's disgusting, I'm so sorry for your brother, you and your family

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    I'm so sorry for your brother. It's Di sad that kind hearted people are used and taken advantage of. I haven't got any advice but wanted to give you hugs x

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    Degrassi you're better than me I would've lost it I think. Your poor brother << big hugs >>

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    An update: my brother contacted his friend to confront him on what he did - of course he denied it.

    I was so proud of the way my brother handled the phone call - I was surprised how confrontational yet mature sounding he was.

    He told this guy to never contact him ever again and has blocked him from fb (as have I).

    It's such a shame a good friend has turned out to be an opportunistic thief and a liar. I guess it's a blessing in disguise as there was serious talk of him and my brother moving in together. The mind boggles at all the ways he may have planned to fleece money out of my brother, given the chance.

    Thanks to those who supported me.


 

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