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    Aside from her annoying presence if she wasn't there it wouldn't be much different, you still have to look after the kids, bath them, cook and clean up. I know it would be nice if she helped but when you move out you will still never get a break.

    Though having her criticise you is not cool.

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    What would happen if you just left her washing in her basket? Eventually she'd run out of knickers and do a load herself?

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    depends if the mil expects op to do all her cooking and to her schedule...

    I would sit down with your DP...he needs to support you and ensure you and the kids are OK.

    imo if it is MIL house she has the right to make some ground rules but not to expect you to cater for her/care for her....unless it was something arranged to offset rent...but even then, you have 3 young children and she should be supporting you in raising her grandchildren and not making your life harder.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    Aside from her annoying presence if she wasn't there it wouldn't be much different, you still have to look after the kids, bath them, cook and clean up. I know it would be nice if she helped but when you move out you will still never get a break.

    Though having her criticise you is not cool.
    My thoughts exactly if you move out you'd still have to do everything except her washing and one less plate to wash at dinner time.
    Obviously her ragging on you isn't good enough but you partner should be sticking up for you.
    Can your partner do the cooking and dishes every 2nd or 3rd day if MIL is refusing and you're exhausted?

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    I'd speak to your partner and ask him to chat to his MIL about the interfering with you raising the kids.

    As for the washing, cooking etc... Sucks but that's part of being a parent. I work full time and come home and cook, clean, do washing. I feel it's all I ever do! But it comes hand in hand with having a family. So you'd be doing it no matter where you live.

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    Yeah.. Apart from the trying to tell you how to parent thing, I'm just not getting it. From what I can see, your MIL is treating you and expecting you to act like a grown up parent.

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    My partner does all the outside work does the lawns takes the rubbish feeds the dogs takes the bin out and he works all day he does he shares i know it's everything I have to do when I move out but she expects to much from me I just wish she would help and my partner does stick up for me but it just starts a massive fight I am trying to get my own house so I can raise my kids the way I want not the way she wants

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    Well.. You would hate living with me then. Now I have to wonder if I'm a horrible housemate.

    *Toddles off to ponder this*

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    I would just stop doing her washing, do you own stuff but don't include hers.

    It really does soundlike she is taking advantage of you being there - expecting you to cook and clean up every evening sounds a bit rough to me. But at least she's out of the house for work and you can have a bit of a break from her!

    No advice, sorry. Goodluck!

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    Thank you everyone.. Reading everyone's opinions it's helped a lot


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