Hi Everyone, I am usually a browser of all topics, but cant seem to find an answer for what I am looking for. If there is a topic/convo going on that I don't know about, then I apologize in advance!
My DS just turned three and I have been enjoying the development he is going through immensely.
This weekend has been a bit tough though! In total he had about 8 meltdowns. And by 'meltdown', I mean throwing himself down on the spot, screaming and and crying. Each time it was because he did not get what he wanted. E.g on Friday we went into a novelty shop and he was playing with all the cars, and I asked him to pick one and he did, which we bought for him, and then tried to leave. As we were leaving the shop, the meltdown began and it ended with me walking away with a screaming child under my arm, kicking and screaming. With onlookers shaking their heads or giving me the "oh dear" look.
I guess the question is, how do I calm him down without letting him get away with what he wants?
a) If I give in to him wont he continue to throw tantrums?
b) It's unfair to other shoppers to "wait out" the tantrum, plus he wanted to go back into the store and grab the cars so waiting it out wasnt really an option in the above scenario.
c) I can't talk it through with him, because he is in the midst of the tantrum, and I thought I made it clear he was only allowed one car.
Most of the meltdowns this weekend were because he could not get his way and was upset about it. Other examples of what happened was, walking down the Esplanade by the shops, and DS wanting to go into the Seven/Eleven and then not allowed to, or leaving the beach because it was time to go home and he wasn't ready to leave. (Surprisingly, no meltdown occurred in Coles or Woolies!)
I am also 23 weeks pregnant, and I realise he notices the changes going on around him, I want to give him everything he wants but at the same time I want him to realise that there are boundaries.
I would love to find out what you all think, and hear about about some positive stories of meltdown management!
Thanks in advance!!!