I think people give women a hard time, often unnecessarily. This bullying is the only issue that I get on my soapbox about. Men largely avoid the same detailed, ridiculous scrutiny of everything they do, the way they relate to people, how they parent and how they look.
I just think in a place like BH, where ttc, expecting or new mothers mostly come for support, that there should be a lot less criticism of other mums who wouldn't be here if being a mother wasn't an important part of their identity. I think there are some mean spirited conversations with a "bad mother" message to people who have had different experiences or make choices in circumstances that are different to your own with the common theme being parenting or birth. I assume that most people, even critical ones, have good intentions (though there are mean spirited trolls in every forum) but I would urge people to give women a break and be mindful that they are here for support and not to defend their choices.