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    Default Taming the tantrum

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    What do you ladies do when your toddler throws a tantrum? I have no idea what to do and I feel like I'm losing control. I had such an angel child up until a few weeks ago. I don't know what to do or how to handle them!!! Do I ignore the tantrums? Do I hug them out?
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    My DD can be the champion *sigh*

    Tiredness plays a big part in our household tantrums.

    Distraction works 90% of the time with DD, failing that I walk away and leave her to it. She gets cuddles when the storm has passed.


    I've only had a couple outside the house so far and I've been a big chicken and just grabbed her and fled home.
    DD is 18 months old.

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    I find ignoring it only prolongs the tantrum...distraction is always a winner here

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    I have 3 kids, and they are all different with tantrums.

    My eldest, he was one who was quite easy to get out of one, talking to him and cuddles and distraction worked.

    Second son. Totally different. I have to just leave him alone comletely to get the anger out of his system, and when he has calmed down, then talk to him and cuddles etc.

    Third son. Well he just won't stop when he starts. He's my biggest challenge so far! Distraction sometimes works with him.

    Anyway, my point is, there is no one thing that works for every child, you really have to try different approaches and see what works, and tweak it if your child is overtired, or hungry, or whatever.

    It's an ever evolving thing, like all of parenting really!

    All the best

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    I think I mastered the tantram stage after ds1. I've found it much easier with ds2. Ds2 is going through the stage a little earlier than ds1 did. Ds1 was 3 when he went through that stage and ds1 is 27mths and he's in it now. Ignoring it is how I deal with it as I learnt with ds1 that the more fuss you make the more they play up because they know they will get attention from the bad behaviour.

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    I might start putting him to bed earlier at night and see if that makes a difference at all. We've been slacking off on putting him to bed at a certain time so maybe he's tired..

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    Tired/hungry/overwhelmed are all usually triggers for us. ESP tired.

    I find lots of empathy and just being very present help us the most. I usually get down on DDs level and verbalize what's happening for her - eg 'you're feeling really mad that you can't XYZ.' And just be there to listen to her. Ask her if she wants a hug, usually she turns up for one after she's raged a bit and is calming down.

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    I usually ignore, depending what it is. Trying to be nice to my son did not work at all. He would get even more worked up.

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