The 16 yr old has come a long way in the past year or so, but he's very much still a daddy's boy, although thankfully not as clingy as he used to be. I get the feeling that in his ideal world everyone else would go away and it would just be him and his dad. He is constantly frustrated with his brother going on and on about things (like driving and drinking alcohol) that he will not be able to do, and is angry at his mother for letting his brother constantly get away with poor behaviour, amongst other things.
So neither of the boys are really having a good time of things at the moment and I'm unsure how they are going to take the news. We try to provide them with a good balance of love, realistic expectations, personal responsibility and freedom. DH talks to them on the phone every night when they're not with us at alternate weekends, and occasionally we meet them during the week for dinner, so they do have a fair bit of contact with their dad and that's not going to change.
I'm really hoping that this baby will provide us all a chance to bond together stronger as a family. I've never tried to take over the role as their mother, I've always been more like an aunt, but I'm hoping being the mum of their little brother or sister will help to bring us closer.
Sorry for the novel!