I've posted before that my MIL gave me a lot of grief about not seeing DD enough. They live about a 3 hour drive from us and we were always the ones going to them (even though DD hated the car and screamed the whole trip there) they have come to us only 4 times in her 2 years of life. One trip being after her birth & another for her first birthday party for a few hours.
We were going up there monthly and staying entire weekends. Sometimes more, sometimes less depending on DH work schedule. And Christmas has always been up there too.
I ended up setting MIL up with Facebook so she can see pics of DD as she had a go at me one day.
it worked well & she's been ok with me since. But I'm still hurt with the way she was nasty to me.
Anyway this all went down within the first year of DD's life. Then I got pregnant with baby 2 & they then tell us the are moving interstate. And will fly us up for visits. I'm a bit nervous about flying with the 2 kids...but will deal with it when it comes.
What annoys me though, is that I got given so much grief and made to feel awful by her and her claims of not seeing DD enough - and within the past year they have moved even further, missed DD's 2nd birthday party due to being interstate & have not seen her in months and SIL (who is sadly having issues getting UTD) makes comments to DH like "mum and dad can't just do what you say, it's not like she even knows its her birthday" when DH simply asked them if they thought they could make the party. SIL didn't make any effort to do/say anything for DD on her birthday. Not even a text.
I received a Facebook MSG from MIL and they put $50 on our account so we can get her a gift from them.
The birth of bub2 is also something they were on my back about when they were in the process of moving. They were telling me to call the moment I get a contraction & they would fly down to watch DD for us while we go to the hospital. I was feeling pretty uneasy about this as its hard to plan, but they and DH kept insisting it would be fine. I didn't want to offend MIL again so I agreed.
Well now they have just conformed (after sounding flaky on the phone in the last few weeks) that they aren't coming for the birth.
They reckon they will be down in 2 weeks (regardless of weather I've had the baby or not) but thats just to tie up some loose ends with their house before settlement and then staying the night here.
After being so upset and feeling guilty about her I now feel this is a huge slap in the face.
I just hope they never ever try and suggest again that they don't see their grand kids enough.
DH & I
DD 2 years old
& DS due end of July 2013!