Hi Ladies im so confused as to what to do about my DS2 so I was hoping some of you may be able to help me.
Dont even really know where to start but DS2 is now 4 and is extremely delayed in his speech and comprehension. As a baby he hit most of his physical milestones within the normal - early range and was even considered advanced by the age of 18 months, but thats where it stopped. Basically from 18 months he just didnt really progress. He definitely did not regress or anything but just became stagnate in regards to his speech and comprehension.
He is unlike any other kid I have met. He doesnt really talk very well (says roughly 100ish words regularly) but he babbles a lot. Like he cant find the words to communicate so will just make up his own or use a word that he knows even though he is aware that it isnt right (you can just read it in his eyes and body language). He is very chatty and will happily talk/babble to strangers in the shops and is very social. He is very cuddly and is always wanting kisses and cuddles and anyone who comes to our door he will run out and give them a cuddle and want to talk to them. Which can be awkward when its the postman etc lol
He has been seeing a speech therapist for almost a year now and has started kindy at a special language development school but made only minimal progress. Its almost like he doesnt retain anything however will surprise us and quite easily recite (not by naming the letter but by doing the actions that the school make up to go with each letter) and recognise letters but cant recall any colours when prompted. Except for his dreamlite where he will tell me 'look, yellow, blue, green' but that took me months of sitting with him going over it again and again. He can write his own name except for the 'k' and is very good at controlling the pencil/texta when writing but doesnt recognise that its his name. When you point to is and say 'Jake' he responds with 'What?' or 'Yes?' as if you are calling to get his attention. His teachers get frustrated with him as he will hardly sit still and pay attention when they are doing activities as a class but is quite good when its 1 on 1.
His speech therapist is great and he loves going to speech and is starting to finally comprehend the games that they play and what he has to do. She works with a range of special needs kids and I asked her what she thinks could be wrong with him but she is completely stumped. She described him as 'cloudy' She says he shows minimal traits of ASD, ADHD and dyspraxia but doesnt really fit any particular category.
As a requirement for him to goto this school he had to see a pead to rule out autism as this school doesnt accept kids with ASD just kids with language related problems and the pead was confident he wasnt ASD and said that his comprehension is so low due to his extreme language delay but was advanced when it came to his motor skills.
I know its silly but I am terrified that he is just gonna be labeled ASD as they dont know whats wrong. My sister is high functioning ASD and DHs uncle is very low functioning ASD. As I was 13 when my sister was born I very much remember what she was like as a baby/little kid and DS2 is just sooo different. I know its a spectrum but I really dont think he has it as he has so many traits in his personality that are very non ASD like.
I just wish I knew what was wrong. Its so hard not knowing. DH pretty much has his head in the sand a little bit about it and thinks that he will eventually catch up and that there is nothing wrong with him. Says all he needs is to repeat kindy as he is the youngest in his class. DH was a bit of a late bloomer himself and thinks he is just like him and just needs this extra time. I agree that he needs to repeat kindy but his teacher said that this school doesnt do it. I just dont know what to do. DS1 is 2 years older (but only 1 year above DS2 at school) and he is doing really well and has come leaps and bounds however I am terrified that DS2 wont be allowed to repeat. There is no way he can do the school work DS1 is currently doing. He cant even keep up now. Im so stressed out.