There's a section in bubhub on birthing stories where people share their experiences on just the birth itself. You get the good the bad and the ugly, all in minute detail. I was hooked and read every single one. The scary stories don't freak me out, they help prepare me better. I think everyone should definitely have a read.
There's one thing that has always stuck with me, and that's this; how bad can it really be, if people go back for seconds. I know that's really dumbing it down to its basics, but we have proof right here in our own little group!! An emergency C, almost lost bub, then almost lost mum, and here she is back ready to go for number 2 :-)
That's what really puts it into perspective for me. Literally millions and millions of people have survived the birthing process. Keeping it that simple really helps me.