Hmm MrsT it sounds like you have a tricky one on your hands! You also sound like you have a lot of patience. If it were me and I was told that DF wasn't ready to come home I would just say fine get a taxi when you are lol. It's nice of you to run around after him but that's a favour - so he should appreciate that you don't have to.
It also sucks that he becomes like that when drunk because it would be hard to address with him when he is in that state. Sometimes in situations like this all I can think is to do something out of character. It usually makes them notice and also worry a little.
I did that with my ex once - she was always one of those I didn't realise the time kind of people. Naturally I would worry and see if she was okay but one night I decided not to. I didn't call or MSG when she hadn't shown up. Instead I walked to a friends place (in the snow as I was living in the UK) and hung out with her until about 7 in the morning. My phone was going off every 2 minutes but 'I didn't realise it was ringing' and I also 'didn't realise the time'. She felt what it was like to not know what was going on and to worry all night - also sobered her up quick smart haha
Maybe a little taste of his own medicine is needed? I hope you don't all think I'm horrible now! I just think sometimes people only understand if they are shown.
Also agree with you MrsT about names. We have said we will go in with 3 different names and choose what suits
Two girls, one dream and baby you are it!