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    Default Please help settle an argument...

    So DH and I are having this stupid argument. When he was 19-21 he went to England for a working holiday. In his own description he lived in a house with approximately..16-20 people at a time and the house was absolutely disgusting.
    Now...myself even at that age would never in a million years live in a house that was filthy dirty with that many people. For the record I grew up in a clean house with parents that were clean. He grew up in an absolutely filthy house with parents that placed no emphasis on cleaning and I still feel uncomfortable at their house because it is so gross.
    He thinks that I am uptight and that every young person could live in disgusting conditions because it's basically a "right of passage" and it's normal. I completely disagree and say the only reason he thinks that's normal is because he grew up in a complete dump so it didn't bother him. I grew up clean and still am and even at 19 would never live in a disgusting share house with pubes covering the bathroom. So....am I normal or am I an uptight snob? Or am I right and it's not normal unless you grew up in filth?

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    i am going to vote that he is a bit of a grub and you are a bit uptight and the norm would be somewhere in the middle.

    When living in the UK, i certainly put up with some dodgy conditions but not as extreme as he described. Many times it didn't matter what the place was like, lots of people would crash on the floor lounge...it was fun.

    I grew up in a very clean home...but, i was travelling so it didn't worry me.

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    By his own description it was gross and that is him coming from a house that was gross that he would have thought was normal. I don't know...I mean I went away to college and dated guys that lived in a shared house and they were typical dirty guys but nothing a few hours of cleaning wouldn't help. Maybe I am uptight because I want to die a little every time I step into his parents house. Organic dirt doesn't bother me. Being outside and sand in the house...that stuff is OK. It's toilets with **** and **** encrusted on them, cupboards with years of food of food plastered to them, floor that have never been mopped and counter tops with raw meat cut on them and not sprayed down at all before moving on to the next thing that bothers me and this is how he grew up :what:

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    Nope I'm completely with you on this. That sounds like hell to me. I'm no clean freak, but I would rather squat and pee outside than use a bathroom covered in other people's pubes and a toilet with dried urine and crusty poo on it - gross!

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    Ewww

    Your not uptight nothing wrong with "clean"

    I always say you don't have to be tidy & organized but there's no excuse to live in filth

    I'm a little OCD when it comes to cleanliness, organization and tidy in MY house but don't care about others as long as its not filth !!!

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    I'm the same as you!!! DH very much grew up in a grubby type house.....his mom would prep dog roll on the bench and then proceed to prepare dinner with the same knife unwashed and unwiped bench......ewwww gag.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mummtime101 View Post
    I'm the same as you!!! DH very much grew up in a grubby type house.....his mom would prep dog roll on the bench and then proceed to prepare dinner with the same knife unwashed and unwiped bench......ewwww gag.
    *vomits*

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    I don't see why filth is a rite of passage. Lol.

    I have a clean freak mother. Our house when I was little was always immaculate. Her house still is. I am not tidy however and right now my house is embarrassing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mummtime101 View Post
    I'm the same as you!!! DH very much grew up in a grubby type house.....his mom would prep dog roll on the bench and then proceed to prepare dinner with the same knife unwashed and unwiped bench......ewwww gag.
    Do we have the same MIL?

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    I'd say he probably experienced a more feral house than is normal. However while backpacking I also lived in a feral share house (6 of us).

    I tried my best to sort it out but in the end you accept that you can't beat em... 😳


 

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