I feel a bit silly writing this as an adult but just have to get it out somewhere.
My sister has 2 young kids, and ever since she had her first, my parents have always gone over to her house and surprised her with things that she wants / needs done, like when they were away, painting the guttering on their whole house or mowing their lawn. Also mum goes over often (about 1-2 times per month) and cleans her house or does her washing. Since I had my daughter almost 5 months ago, mum was babysitting for me once so did our ironing (I'm very grateful for her doing it) but has never offered to do anything else for us. Last week and the week before I had a really terrible time with my daughter which my mum knew about and she didn't offer to come and help me at all, but she looked after my sisters kids for 3 days each week.
Today, my dad cleaned up their driveway (BIL mowed but didn't clean the grass cuttings off the driveway) and tidied their garage (it's a single garage but absolutely full of crap). Mum brought all their washing home to her house yesterday and washed, dried and folded it, and also cleaned both kids wardrobes out and cleaned their bedrooms from top to bottom. Mum said "I like the kids to have their things nice" and I said "but it won't last" and she said "well what can I do, I can't go over there every week and clean it up" - umm just don't do it and come and help me!
My house is modest but I try hard to keep it clean and keep on top of my housework even if I'm having a difficult time with my daughter, whereas my sister rarely does housework and doesn't seem to appreciate it when anyone helps (or else she'd try to keep it clean!). I would LOVE it if mum came to do my washing one day and would appreciate it forever, especially when my daughter is being difficult but she just never helps me.
Ok vent over!!