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    I think I have more of an issue with men who think women and their vaginas are items to be purchased than the women doing the selling of said items.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beebs View Post
    Can I ask a question of those that think it is all good and ok. Would you think it ok for that person to be a mum? And is it then ok for mum to tell the kids what she does for a living? Or is it supposed should it be a secret? And if you have to keep something like that a secret do you think that in itself probably tells you there is something wrong with the profession?
    That's what I was trying to get at. I would not want to be asked at a school event what I do for a living with the answer being sex worker. In saying that, I'm ashamed at the moment, a mum at sport last night asked me what I do for a living, I said I'm not currently working and felt very ashamed of that response. I then went on to justify by saying that there was a personal injury so I'm having 12 months off work because it will be 12 months when I return to work and it was a personal injury and that was better for me than saying I'm simply unemployed.

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    A member of my extended family runs a brothel and he is a very creepy, unpleasant and misogynistic man and what I have seen of the industry certainly colours my opinion of it (as with everyone - our experiences shape our opinions). I don't think it is in general a respectable industry and I would not want my daughter becoming a sex worker.

    Did anyone see the documentary on abc recently 'Male Hookers Uncovered'? It was fascinating. It featured a guy who thought it would be fun to try out escorting and get paid for sex. He interviewed other escorts and a popular male pron star and the pron star's advice was 'don't do it'. He admits he feels used and empty. There's a big difference between being fine with no strings sex and taking the step into paid sex.

    That's just my opinion based on what I've seen and know. I respect others have different views based on their experiences.

    I should add - I may not like the industry, but the people in it are individuals and deserve to be treated with respect and I would never avoid anyone or think less of them for having been a sex worker. Each to their own lives.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Gotta disagree with you there. People don't necessarily find prostitution shameful because they find no strings sex shameful. I don't have a problem with casual sex. I have a problem with women letting themselves be disrespected and treated like a commodity, like dirt. And having sex with people (big fat hairy men?) they likely don't find attractive.
    Stop referring to 'big fat hairy men' as disgusting. I personally love and am very attracted to my big fat hairy man. If a man was referring to 'a big fat unshaved chick' that would be an outrage.


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    Quote Originally Posted by SpecialPatrolGroup View Post
    Stop referring to 'big fat hairy men' as disgusting. I personally love and am very attracted to my big fat hairy man. If a man was referring to 'a big fat unshaved chick' that would be an outrage.


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    Thank you! I wasn't going to say anything but that annoyed me too!

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Gotta disagree with you there. People don't necessarily find prostitution shameful because they find no strings sex shameful. I don't have a problem with casual sex. I have a problem with women letting themselves be disrespected and treated like a commodity, like dirt. And having sex with people (big fat hairy men?) they likely don't find attractive.
    I have a problem with that too, Vic Park. I just don't believe that ALL sex workers (or even most) are letting themselves be disrespected and treated like a commodity, like dirt. In the right context (ie not enslaved, not desperate) they have the power to walk out the minute that happens. Women are disrespected and treated like a commodity ALL the time - on billboards, on television, every time a woman's body is shown off without face or anything other than decorative purpose. This is the fault of patriarchal society. And when it happens as part of sex work, it is equally vile, but that does NOT mean that treatment is an inherent aspect of sex work.

    Having sex with people they don't find attractive? Well maybe they have a way to MAKE it a pleasing prospect. Maybe they lie back and think of Britain? Maybe they think of someone else. Maybe they think of all the lovely things they will do with the money they are earning. Those things happen quite frequently outside of the sex work scenario too ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boobycino View Post
    Thank you! I wasn't going to say anything but that annoyed me too!

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    I wasn't sure if it was just me because I am so aware that my husband has real sel esteem issues related to how he looks (even though he is gorgeous) and I keep thinking how it would hurt him to read that someone has put him squarely in the box of the "unf&#^able" that has to pay for it.

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    I really struggle with the industry as a whole and have been quite vocal about my feelings regarding treating humans as a commodity to be bought and used.

    I honestly would be heartbroken if my children ended up working in the industry in any way and I hate to think of them being consumers of such a "product".

    That said, I don't think that life is black and white and I would never be so judgmental as to assume that people involved in the industry are x, y or z. I don't know their circumstances or their stories.

    So no, I don't think it's a shameful occupation but I do think it's often a shame.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Rent a room not a unit. Do Uni part time. Do Uni in a cheaper location. Choose a Uni closer to home. Deal with the fact you're going to be eating 2 minute noodles for 3 years instead of lobster.

    Sorry I just don't think that in Australia someone needs to be a prostitute in order to study. The majority of students get by without needing to sell their body. If someone does feel they need to do this then I think they either just want the easy money/dont care and/or lack certain skills (planning in advance, thinking outside the box, time management ....)
    That's all well and good for some students. When I studied I had the choice of 4 unis, none in my home state. I did a course with 40+ contact hours a week plus after hours and holiday work. There would have been only 4-5 hours per week where I could have worked but I had no car and public transport was not safe where I lived. Luckily mum and dad helped me out because not only did I have living and studying expenses but I also had to fund accommodation on prac work. I would have loved a high paying job for a few hours a week.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SpecialPatrolGroup View Post
    Stop referring to 'big fat hairy men' as disgusting. I personally love and am very attracted to my big fat hairy man. If a man was referring to 'a big fat unshaved chick' that would be an outrage.


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    I was using it as an example basically to say "people who the prostitute does not find attractive". I agree some people might find big fat hairy men physically attractive, but most wouldn't. That doesn't mean you can't fall in love with a big fat hairy man. I think (unlike men) women can fall head over heals for an unattractive man because their personality can be a real turn on. I certainly did in my younger days. thought he was Tom Cruise at the time though That's why you find unattractive men on the TV all the time, but rarely unattractive women. But that's another thread!


 

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