Oh dear, I can see big issues about money in the future if he doesn't change his attitude pronto. I think parenthood is going to be quite a shock to him. He's treating you like a business partner who's defaulting on business repayments. And he needs to ask his father first? It's like you're the lesser business partner to add insult to injury.
I'd be rethinking my marriage if DH suggested that I back pay mortgage payments or let his Dad decide what was reasonable. Both of these raise alarm bells for me about trust and responsibility
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Has his past behaviour given you to think this kind of behaviour would continue?
Also, it almost sounds like a passive agressive way of telling you that you are going to need to go back to work 'pronto' to 'pay your way'.
What are YOUR plans as far as that goes, and do you think he might put a lot of pressure on you to return to work earlier than you are comfortable, keeping in mind that many women intend to return to work within the first 6 - 12 months of having the baby and then decide when baby is born, that they in fact want to stay at home longer than that (I was one that stayed home longer than I originally intended)
Last edited by MilkingMaid; 17-07-2013 at 11:55.
I might be too cynical but am I the only one who thinks that the OP may not be entirely.... Factual?
Apologies if that's not the case. It's just that I have never heard anything so ridiculous in my life! Not the OP - her partner of course.
So yes, I do feel that I have a right to be responsible for overseeing spending because it is not an equitable relationship. He is not a SAHP while I am working - I am all things. I also transfer about half of my pay into his account every week and don't question his spending, but I believe I would have the right to given our circumstances.
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