Jodi, I'm so sorry
Jodi, I'm so sorry
I have often wondered why you all go OS for donors when we have so many here. I am on Egg Donation Australia and we have so many donors looking for recipients at the moment ( at least 100) and only 2 recipients actively looking for a donor.
I am sure there are many many reasons you choose to travel and use anon donors but I just wanted to let you know local is definitely possible.
Truly sorry if I am out of line posting this.
Spotsmum - I chose South Africa because it is anonymous. I am adopted myself and never wanted to find my own parents because I consider my adoptive parents to be my real parents. I don't think it's necessarily normal for a child to have to have multiple sets of parents in their life - and that is what the Australian Laws currently encourage (again, solely my opinion - and one that I have formed out of my own personal circumstances).
I also had a cousin who found an egg donor here in Australia (well thought she did) then the donor asked for a financial reimbursement so things could not proceed beyond that point. I am 42 and did not want to have my hopes crushed by having that sort of situation happen to me.
Also, the success rates via the ED in SA really looked encouraging to me. I had gone through IVF with my own eggs for 12 months and fell pregnant with my own egg only to miscarry at the beginning of this year... I have a 12 year old daughter so knew that my body was capable of falling pregnant - just not with my own eggs.
I want to say to you that it's a VERY personal decision and all of us as women have different reasons why we choose to go to SA. If it were that easy in Australia - everybody would be doing it wouldn't they?
Jodi - so sorry to hear your sad news. Thinking of you
Rainbow - Agree it is too long a process at our age and there are too many stories of it going pear shaped in Oz! SA is a better option in so many ways - success rates, speed of securing a donor and cycling, less red tape etc etc.
AFM - Still searching and getting closer to making a decision on a donor (I think)!!!
Spotsmum - thank you for contributing to the forum and your question - don't be sorry.... and your generosity in what you are doing for others - it is such a gift.
ED in Australia - I agree with the other ladies. I've thought about it again, especially right now in case this doesn't work - but to be honest, I don't think I could face the bureaucracy in Australia for ED. I understand why they have it in place, the counselling for both parties, transferring only 1 embryo etc.... It was so much easier to go overseas.
Rainbow - thanks for answering what you did with needles etc.. I guess that's what I'll have to do. Funny, as I feel so conspicuous carrying used needles - like a druggo !
Makeba and Jodi, so sorry to hear your results weren't what was hoped. I did my blood test yesterday but typically I won't get the result until Monday. 3 more days of thinking I am pregnant before reality hits. I don't know what to expect as this time is different to last time.
DH and I caught the flu on the flight over, weather was good initially but became rainy and cold like winter for the last half of our stay so didn't get out and about as much as I would have liked. I was really hoping to enjoy the food this time but I just didn't feel hungry so I didn't get to the restaurants everyone has mentioned. We did go back to mojos at the Kirstenbosch gardens and scored there as it was sunday and at 1200 on a sunday they do a buffet lunch, 3 different soups, 3 stews, bobotie pie, etc etc. Had a little bit of everything, very nice.
Thankyou to everyone who have been sending me their wellwishes. Have missed reading a big chunk and just caught up on the last 10 pages.
Net - intralipds, I am having them done here, my obstetrician is organising it on instruction from my aussie IVF specialist. I have private health insurance with a nil excess so it hasn't cost me anything to do it. It's done different to how they do it at CFC as there is no set protocol.
Lunch beaks over so it's back to work for me, got home 5pm weds, at work 7am thurs. Jetlagged.
spotsmum - you didn't offend me at all. I was just telling you from my own experience why I did not do oz. My IVF clinic here in Australia also told me some horror experiences they had seen.
I believe that the laws here are outdated and really must change to give people who are desperately trying to be parents the opportunity to do so.
I also failed to mention that we had one hellava awesome holiday under our belts at the end of it - so even if we did not come back pregnant, the three of us had the most amazing memories that we will truly treasure forever.
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