All of you in the 2ww – thinking of you!
Lots of questions out there today – I thought I’d contribute.
Angelmama – I stayed at Valley Heights not too far from the clinic. It was pretty basic but clean and not expensive. You asked about twin births. I saw an article that looked at ED pregnancies in the US in 2010. An ideal birth was considered one child born at a healthy weight. Of all ED pregnancies, ¼ achieved this result, meaning that some women didn’t get pregnant but some had multiples. Almost 56% of all ED pregnancies did result in a live birth and though most of these were healthy babies, 37% were twins and many of those were premature with low birth weights. Less than 1% were triplets.
Keep in mind that vanishing twin syndrome, in which one twin doesn’t make it very early in the process, which is what happened to me, occurs in 20-30% of twin pregnancies.
Also, if you don’t mind me saying, this process is hard enough without having people causing us to doubt the path, as well meaning as they may be. Go to the CFC site and look at the donor agencies they recommend – those that aren’t on the list are not on it for a reason. If you do go back over the three threads, only one person has complained about their treatment – she may have had other issues, though, and she felt frustrated I think because none of the rest of us could relate to her negative experience.
For those of you who are new to the site or are trying to get your head around donor eggs from SA, I know there are a lot of posts but I do recommend that you go back and read the entire thread. It’ll take a few evenings in front of the tv but it is worth it.
Also – I can’t remember the exact number but a SA donor can only donate so many times that result in a live birth, and it’s not a high number. 3 or 4 maybe? A little investigation through some of the donor agency websites might tell you. It’s legislated by SA law, anyway.
My donor had donated twice – once resulting in a live birth, the other not. I asked my dr here if I should not use her and he said it might not have anything to do with her - could have been a sperm or something else. If you’re worried about the health of the donor you can always request some additional tests done (You have to pay) such as AMH and FSH on day 3.
Blinky, welcome – I think most of us have used Cape Fertility Clinic (CFC) and it is very professional – absolutely on par with any clinic you might visit elsewhere. I’m in Canada and it wasn’t unlike what we have here. Again, I recommend that you look at what donor clinics CFC recommends. You have to choose your donor before you can agree on a time to cycle – you’ll need a couple of months, maybe three, to get all your ducks in a row. Your donor may also have time constraints so you have to check with her via your donor agency once you’ve made your decision. There are lots of great places to stay and most of the women here rolled their transfers in with a holiday – shark diving, safaris, wine tours and all.