+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 20
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Posts
    415
    Thanks
    136
    Thanked
    117
    Reviews
    0

    Default Do you ever wish you stopped at 1 child?

    Still contemplating whether or not to have a second and just want to know if you had another and just quietly wish you stopped at 1.

    No nasty comments please

  2. #2
    Join Date
    May 2010
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    3,202
    Thanks
    1,702
    Thanked
    2,424
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    i was happy after 1 and had no plans for number 2. I was also an only child and quite liked it so had no desire for another..... However life had other plans for me and I fell pregnant again accidently when ds was just 4 months old. Along came dd and she is the greatest blessing and I cant imagine life without her...However my children are only 13 months apart and especially when they were little and I was struggling I did sometimes (actually it was quite regularly) wish Id only had one child like I planned.
    They are 3 and 4 now and the greatest loves of my life and iam so glad I have them both.

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    Posts
    1,233
    Thanks
    17
    Thanked
    267
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    No. Even though some days are hard I find it amazing that I can 'love' so much. I was worried that I wouldn't feel as much love or I would have to half the love I had for DS1. I didn't and that is an amazing feeling. It sounds silly now but these were real concerns for me. I really love watching my children interact and knowing that if something happens to DH and I that my children have each other. We don't have a big family and I actually felt it was a little bit of our responsibility to give DS1 more of an immediate family. I really like the lessons they have had to learn having a sibling (sharing objects/our attention). I know only children can learn these but it is regularly reinforced having a sibling.

  4. #4
    headoverfeet's Avatar
    headoverfeet is offline The truth will set you free, but first it will **** you off. -Gloria Steinem
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    18,954
    Thanks
    3,142
    Thanked
    4,892
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Sometimes I think I can see how much easier it would be but I know I would be missing a part of myself. Like RippaRita I have a close first age gap (14mths) I didn't find it tricky then but I do now!

  5. #5
    MilkingMaid's Avatar
    MilkingMaid is offline Winner 2009 - Mod Award - most supportive member
    Question those who don't question authority
    Join Date
    May 2005
    Location
    Home
    Posts
    9,661
    Thanks
    3,787
    Thanked
    2,144
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Very occasionally when I'm having a hard time, and feeling completely overwhelmed, yes, but most of the time I really love seeing the 3 of them interact.

    It's more about sheer workload for me, it can be tough when you are on your own.

  6. The Following User Says Thank You to MilkingMaid For This Useful Post:

    headoverfeet  (14-07-2013)

  7. #6
    headoverfeet's Avatar
    headoverfeet is offline The truth will set you free, but first it will **** you off. -Gloria Steinem
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    18,954
    Thanks
    3,142
    Thanked
    4,892
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by Aquillah View Post
    No. Even though some days are hard I find it amazing that I can 'love' so much. I was worried that I wouldn't feel as much love or I would have to half the love I had for DS1. I didn't and that is an amazing feeling. It sounds silly now but these were real concerns for me. I really love watching my children interact and knowing that if something happens to DH and I that my children have each other. We don't have a big family and I actually felt it was a little bit of our responsibility to give DS1 more of an immediate family. I really like the lessons they have had to learn having a sibling (sharing objects/our attention). I know only children can learn these but it is regularly reinforced having a sibling.
    It is amazing how your ability to love grows

  8. The Following User Says Thank You to headoverfeet For This Useful Post:

    LoveLivesHere  (14-07-2013)

  9. #7
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Posts
    1,147
    Thanks
    126
    Thanked
    159
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I dearly dearly love my two children but regular wish id only had one...
    Just how much easier everything would be and I feel id be able to focus more on my child instead of struggling to give attention and parent both my children as a single mum. I do feel terribly guilty for saying this. And I do love them both so much and cant imagine not having one of them.

    There are pro's and cons for both situations.

    I can say seeing my children play together and how much they love and care for each other is the greatest thing in the world.

  10. #8
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    Posts
    21,647
    Thanks
    15,089
    Thanked
    11,255
    Reviews
    14
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the WeekBusiest Member of the Week - week ended 5/2/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 31/10/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 24/10/14Busiest Member of the Week
    NO. Even my surprise babies only days after the are born I couldn't imagine my life without them. Don't get me wrong someday i wish i didn't have all 5/6 with at that exact moment but no i have wished them all away.

  11. #9
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Posts
    4,412
    Thanks
    509
    Thanked
    1,060
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Not at all. And my second (DD) was hard work as a bub. Even during that time I had no regrets. Now at 7 and 4 they are simply awesome!

  12. #10
    Join Date
    Feb 2013
    Posts
    3,220
    Thanks
    1,254
    Thanked
    1,085
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    While I had major pnd after my second....not for one moment have I ever regretted having her


 

Similar Threads

  1. How old was bub when you stopped BF?
    By acerbaby in forum Breastfeeding Support
    Replies: 38
    Last Post: 05-05-2013, 09:35
  2. Stopped bleeding after 2 days?
    By Shoopuf in forum Pregnancy Loss Support
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 30-01-2013, 11:56
  3. MS stopped??
    By curiouschildcare in forum Morning Sickness
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 06-11-2012, 08:57

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Einsteinz Music
Make music at Einsteinz Music in age-appropriate class in Sydney's Inner West, Eastern Suburbs or North Shore. For ages 6 mths - 4 yrs. All music is live! Christmas Gift certificates available for full term or casual classes. Call 0431 338 143
sales & new stuffsee all
Pea Pods
Buy 2 Award Winning Pea Pods Reusable One Size Nappies for only $38 (in your choice of colours) and receive a FREE roll of Bamboo Liners. Don't miss out, we don't usually have discounts on the nappies, so grab this special offer!
Special Offer! Save $12
featured supporter
KindyROO
KindyROO offers activities for babies & toddlers in a fun learning centre, focussing on developmental education. Classes are available at three Brisbane and two Gold Coast locations. Enrol today & help your child to reach their full potential. Visit the website to find out more.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!