It's like vaccination- I am very passionately pro vax, but I respect other people's right to not get them. I don't understand it, I don't like it, I will argue til the cows come home about any misinformation I see being put forward about vaccinating but I don't support forced vaccination. I don't "get" freebirth- but I would never support forcing someone to birth in some other way.
At the end of the day, no matter how "natural" something is, sometimes medical intervention is required. I'm sorry, but if home birthing advocates are saying that home birth shouldn't be undertaken in certain circumstances, then it probably shouldn't. There are absolutely sometimes reasons why medical intervention is necessary. Don't get me wrong, I think it happens far too much at the moment. But I see posts often that imply that natural and homebirth is always best under any circumstances, and that just isn't the case.
I never understood elective c/s until my birth experience, now I do. I should say, nothing went wrong in hospital to make me scared to give birth, my fear is solely from giving birth to a dead baby and having a hard time making my mind understand that babies are born alive all the time (obviously I've witnessed it many times). That is something I will work extensively on throughout this pregnancy to help myself trust the birthing process.
As a doula I completely understand the 'sphincter law,' it's a reason I support home births and more birth centers, why I understand its important to be surrounded by people you trust who can help you stay relaxed. I also am not allowed to attend any birth where there is not a qualified medical professional present, because I could then possibly be held responsible if something went wrong. Midwives have such value and you can hire them early in pregnancy giving you plenty of time to build a trusting relationship with them.
Last edited by HollyGolightly81; 16-07-2013 at 15:51.
PS - I agree with Atropos though, I would never agree with forcing a woman to birth where she doesn't want to. That in itself would hinder labour.
Jaded is a very mild term, I prefer to call it traumatised.
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