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    Hi ladies, I'm posting for advice on my 3 month old DDs sleep. I want to preface this by saying that I'm not complaining because I know how lucky I am to have such a good sleeper.

    She's about to outgrow her bassinet, so I'll be moving her to her cot. The problem is that she likes to be either rocked her jiggled in her bassinet in order to fall asleep and obviously I can't do that in a cot. This week I have been trying to implement a bedtime routine and have her in bed by 7 (in the past she's normally gone to bed at 1030ish). I've also tried patting and shushing instead of rocking but it doesn't work! I tried for an hour and a half a couple of nights ago to no avail. There has also been A LOT of crying and she's normally doesn't cry much. I know she can put herself to sleep because up until about a month ago she'd go to sleep at night as soon as it was dark and quiet (she no longer does this). She will also get herself to sleep after a night feed (if she has one) and sometimes for her first nap of the day.

    Again, I know I'm very lucky that she sleeps as well as she does, but I'd love some advice on gettingg her to sleep without rocking. Will she get used to the patting if I persist? I'm not willing to do CIO. I don't mind leaving her to grizzle, but not happy to leave her crying. I don't want to rock her to sleep in my arms partly because I'm worried I'll still be doing it in a years time, but mainly because I'm worried it'll change her ability to put herself to sleep at all.

    Would love to hear your thoughts

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    Does she have a dummy? I found this super useful when DS moved to his cot. I had similar issues, DS did not respond to shshing, patting or rocking. He really was a dummy baby for getting to sleep.

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    Second the dummy.

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    Oh no... Don't go the dummy. Your bub is already becoming used to pita put to sleep methods (patting, shushing) a dummy is another negative sleep aid will likely give you a whole new set of problems including night wakings.

    Some ideas:
    - get the day naps timed exactly right. Research, research research. If bub is the right level of tired bub is more likely to go to sleep without protest.
    - ensure bub has a full tummy (always offer the other boob if you're bf'ing).
    - swaddle until bub fights it
    - ensure bub is warm enough: grobag and a thermostat controlled heater
    - no stimulation (TV radio etc) in the hour befor bed time
    - keep bedtime routine EXACTLY the same each night (one thing out of step and bub will crack).
    - have a little rhyme you say to bub before each nap: day or night
    - consider using a breathable comforter with your smell on it.

    Good luck

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    Not ALL babies wake consistently through the night looking for a dummy as tizzy would have you believe.

    I have 3 children, all have had dummies. None of them have ever woken for it once they're asleep.

    OP - perhaps start shushing instead of rocking the bassinet, then you will be able to shush once they move. It also doesn't have to be so regimented.
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    Both of mine have fallen asleep with me rocking them rather than the bassinet, one hand on one hip, sometimes the other hand up on their chest and rock them back and forth, slowing to a tiny jiggle on the hip/bottom. DS is 3.5 and is still often rocked to sleep this way
    I think its more comforting to them than rocking the bassinet because they also feel your touch.

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    I found it hard with my son at 3 months to get him to sleep. Still very little and reliant on mummy. Things got a lot easier shortly after the 4 month mark. I've heard of people who tap the mattress of the cot to create a rhythmic vibration to sooth the baby or as big red suggested shushing or have you tried playing soothing music?

    My ds didn't take a dummy, but I know lots of people who've found them helpful without night waking issues.
    I have to agree with the timing of naps though, I found it very helpful to have sleeps and feeds at the same time every day so he had some consistency. Now he knows when it's nap time and bottle time for sure!

    Good luck. Don't worry, soon you will have the 4 month sleep regression to deal with :-)

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    I gave the dummy to ds at night only. He never looked for it or asked for it during the day & he certainly never cried for it in the night. Once he was settled that was it. Dd never took a dummy she self settled really early - dont really know we did anything to help that she was just really content early.

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    Get yourself a lullabub cot rocker - look on gumtree or eBay. It lets you rock the cot. It has an automatic rocking function but that's rubbish.

    You can then work towards weaning off the rocking but I still use it on my 6 month old - we're getting towards true self-settling slowly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    Not ALL babies wake consistently through the night looking for a dummy as tizzy would have you believe.

    I have 3 children, all have had dummies. None of them have ever woken for it once they're asleep.

    OP - perhaps start shushing instead of rocking the bassinet, then you will be able to shush once they move. It also doesn't have to be so regimented.
    Waking in the night for the dummy to be replaced is not the only negative. While I understand that some people find they work well and serve a purpose, I think its important to give a balanced view, there are pros, and there are cons, (TH aside, many medical professionals do not advocate the use of dummies). Its up to the individual to decide if the pro's outweigh the con's and visa versa.

    TH stipulates at least 7 (very legitimate) reasons why dummies should be avoided where possible.


 

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