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    I think there are worse things for a child than spending 5 days a week in day care. Some parents just can't cope and if that is the case they may be better off in a child care situation. I would be more worried if they left them with a family member who was not appropriate or able to care for the kid 100% What I seriously wonder about is the parents who judge sah mothers who use day care even a couple of times a week and have their children spend time with grandparents etc. not everyone has a support network that they can rely on and they should mind their own business.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Luna Lovegood View Post
    I'm a rebel and never sent DD to Kindy... She is in her first year of prep and doing fine, even a little advanced in some areas. I just made sure she got plenty of social interactions with sports and playdates, an at home made sure there was lots of play based learning.
    That's good to hear as I also won't be sending DS , ( until pre k when he is 4 ) but we do sooo many activities and he's the most social 2.5yo out there!
    I actually get judged for not sending him !

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    That's good to hear as I also won't be sending DS , ( until pre k when he is 4 ) but we do sooo many activities and he's the most social 2.5yo out there!
    I actually get judged for not sending him !
    I didn't send my kids to childcare at all, but they did go to kindy (pre prep) 5 days per fortnight (DD is currently in this program). DS is in year 1 and is doing very well and both kids are socially and emotionally well adjusted. Your DS will be fine! I also had people in my ear about childcare when my kids were toddlers but I knew being at home for them was a great thing. I have nothing against childcare but it's not a necessity for child development.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    That's good to hear as I also won't be sending DS , ( until pre k when he is 4 ) but we do sooo many activities and he's the most social 2.5yo out there!
    I actually get judged for not sending him !
    DD was 4 when she started prep an has been fine. The only issues we've had is she is more immature compared to other kids, however she is also the second youngest in her class so that was always expected.

    I was told by a few people that she would have social issues but the truth is she quite popular with friends not only from her class but other classes too. We have a couple of play dates every week after school and on weekends, so I really don't think that she has social issues or attachment/separation issues.

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    I'm a SAHM but send DD3(3.5)to daycare 2 days a week and DD4(17 months) is about to start on Friday. I feel guilty for doing it when I shouldn't. My weeks are full of swimming, kids gym, specialist appointments, OT, ST, on top of having a type 1 diabetic daughter so This is my chance to grab the only break I can especially when DH is working away.
    I don't agree with SAHM sending their children to daycare 5 days a week but I also don't agree with working mother sending their children to daycare from a few months of age.

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    I used to be one of the judgey! I was a daycare worker and I didn't understand why SAHMs would put their kids in care. Which, lets face it, is really stupid because I knew how crazy and full on kids were. It's like I had a mental block - they run rampant at daycare, but at home surely they're just gonna stay still and play quietly while mum or dad do the laundry or clean up.

    Yeah, no.

    Cue the arrival of DS. I'm a SAHM and dude, this is a full time job! I had no idea how intense this parenting business would be - DF does shift work so there's very little downtime for me. I honestly wasn't prepared for how hardcore being a SAHM could be.

    Originally I wasn't going to put him into care until he turned 1. I had plans to take him to my mum's maybe once a week so he could play with the other kids (mum does family daycare).

    I was shocked by his reaction when we went the first time. My somewhat unimpressed 4 month old was just so excited to be there! He was super alert and just watched the other kids like it was Christmas. He lasted longer on his tummy there than he did at home, he reached and rolled to get closer to the other children. It was amazing. I enrolled him into care the next month. Originally he was only going to go once a week but I took advantage of an unexpected opening for an extra day.

    DS has always been an active baby but I honestly think that daycare helped him in leaps and bounds. He's a happy and confident bub and he loves other people. He's almost 9 months old and he shuts the door on me when I leave!

    And I get to do a week's worth of laundry and clean the apartment. I never thought I'd get so excited to have time to do the laundry! DS also gets to spend time with grandma, so that's an added bonus.

    Now that I have a baby, I do a lot less judging of other parents in general.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Hollywood View Post
    Yeah if I saw a parent dressed sloppy who was regularly dropping the kid off....yes I would also raise an eyebrow, but for one offs I give the benefit of the doubt as it's impossible to know the situation.

    Like occasionally I have a day off for whatever reason and I might still take DD in for a shorter day. I never go out of the house dressed sloppy, but on those days I'm dressed casual and clearly not going to the office. I don't care what people think on those days.
    Seriously??? I finish at 12 hour night shift at 6am and take ds to Childcare at 7.. So I look like hell in my trackies. So wrong to judge people because the drop at child care sloppy. Who cares its just child care! No need to dress up.

    Also op I don't have a problem with sahm using care. I would too of I didnt work for a day of peace. But I think some working parents get annoyed because its so hard to find a spot in centres and when they hear someone not working is taking a spot then they might get angry.
    I don't mind tho. If u got the spot before me it's my bad luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by mel04 View Post
    You just said kids love being with their mum, so why do working parents have children if they are just going to send them to care?
    I don't see how you can be against one, but not the other?

    What if that SAHP is doing volunteer work? Caring for a sick family member? Has PND?
    I've not used daycare ever myself, to me it's up to the parent entirely.

    However, the post above has really highlighted a massive double standard. Great point!

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    I currently work 3 days a week and DD is in care 2 days and watched by my mum the other day oor by my MIL. When we are lucky enough to have another bub and I will be home on mat leave, I will still keep DD in care those 2 days, in order to maintain her routine, give me time to bond with new bub, nap during the day etc.
    I think priority should be given to families with child protection concerns, mental health or physical health issues, and working parents, but other than that I think all children and families should have access to some type of care.

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    Oh and the part about judging parents on what they are wearing at drop off, well that's possibly the shallowest thing I've ever read on the hub... And that's saying something!

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