I have written to my MP and she has written to the Mayor!
I think the issue here isn't really who is more deserving it's about the need for more places. Theoretically a mother putting her kids in 5 days a week while at home is parting with a lot of money and would be getting much less CC subsidies that a woman working f/t.
As I said, I support working parents getting first dibs on spots, but that's bc the places are often so scarce. At the end of the day whether the child has a working or SAH parent, their place is being paid for.
I'm starting my Dd back in daycare this Thursday! She will be 3 tomorrow, Her speech therapist said it will help but not sure how she will settle she is very clinging and even dropping in forms she didn't want to go in! SAHM's need a break sometimes to refresh have a day to ourselves and They have lots of fun!
I don't see any difference between someone choosing to work when they don't need to, or choosing to spend time doing charity lunches. Both are people choosing to spend their week doing things they enjoy, and having their children in daycare / with a nanny. One is not more worthy than the other.
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In saying that, I am going to put him in a 3rd day as I need some respite from him. He's incredibly challenging (defiant, aggressive, anxious, hyperactive). On that third day, I will hang out at home with my 9 month old, which, compared to looking after them both, is like a holiday.
I wonder if some people who put their kids in daycare who don't work, are not actually lazy, but really struggling. Until I had a difficult child, I didn't understand the depths of despair you can experience as a parent, and daycare is probably a better option than strangling your child.
I dunno, she didn't inherit her money, she worked in Stocks or some such in Hong Kong she met her husband there, they both did the same thing and were multi millionares by the time they retired at 30, they then retired and moved back to Australia where they bought a mansion, knocked it down and built a new one in its place. Then the husband died of terminal cancer at 33.
Is she still spoilt? She earned her own money and her husband died.
See - you just never know what is going on with someone.
I would like to point out that I don't know anyone who puts their kids in childcare 5 days a week for no reason. I just don't think you can judge people without knowing their full story.
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I know a couple that had their son in five days a week. They were in their 40s when he was born & when he was a few months old they came to the conclusion they were too old to go through raising a child again. Off to daycare he went.
Neither of them worked & as the poor kid got older they just kept giving him more things to entertain himself with - at 18 months he had a TV & DVD player in his room and was encouraged to spend as much time in there as possible.
He's now a very messed up 10 year old who is desperate for love & affection, but gets treated like an inconvenience all the time. My heart breaks for him.
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