DS is starting childcare soon 3days per week. He is almost 20m and has never been away from me and my husband apart from being at a family daycare for a few hours for three days. He cried the whole time he was there and apparently the lady did not want to deal with an unsettled baby so kinda hinted me to pull him out. I did of course . His behaiviour changed so much after that and it took him a good few months to get back to his oldself. So this time I turely dont want this to happen again so need advise on how to settle him in with less drama.
1. I can do as many orientations as I want ( at the family daycare i did not have orientation at all) . So how many times should be ok? I am thinking may be 6? how can i arrange these orientations? from when should i try to leave him and see how he goes? when leaving, do i leave while he doesnt notice or should i tell him i am leaving and be back soon?
2. And how about after orientations, how can I build the time up smoothly?
3. He has always been fed to sleep, even now. I have a big concern that nap time will be a big drama for him. Do you think he will be alright sleeping there? Actually I am totally ok if he does not nap rather than crying to sleep. As I will be increasing time gradually, from when do you think I could leave him at nap time there?