This will be long but I'm desparate for some advice. I have an 18mo DD & split from her father when she was 2mo. FOB & I have a once a week visitation schedule (Sunday afternoon) & we both have new partners. I have been with DP for close to 10 months but knew him as an early teen.
Recently, he asked that we move in with him as a trial for a couple of wks, we did and unfortunately he decided he's not ready for the responsibility of taking her full time so we moved back out. I am trying to be understanding about this but was obviously a bit hurt. He says he knows that he wants to be with me forever, knows that means DD too but just isn't ready right now. Have you ever had this worry and wanted to rewind? How did you decide you could do it?
For the other issue, everytime FOB comes up he gets an attitude about it. Ie DD is sick & on 24hr exlusion from daycare tomorrow, I started a new job this week & am not able to have the day off so FOB is happy to look after her. DD and I are staying at DPs place as said job is in the same suburb. When I mentioned this he said 'Whatever, I don't care you're the parent' in a tone that showed obvious disapproval. I feel like I have to step on eggshells and pretend FOB doesn't exist but if I lied about where DD was going tomorrow I'd be in more trouble.. I just can't win.
Have any of you resented your partners ex to the point it causes strain in your relationship? I just don't know if I can do this when I'm always feeling guilty for doing the best I can. Is it better/easier now?
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