(I posted this in the pregnancy area as well but realized maybe it should go here...)
So I am 9 weeks pregnant and DH has been offered a promotion in London, ideally having us move sometime in September.
I'm friggin' petrified! We've lived in London before so I do know I like it and I was a nanny there so I know it's fine with babies/young children, we've always said we'd love to go back older and with more money--that it'd be a completely different experience than as broke 22 year olds. So here's our chance!
But I didn't think this opportunity would come right when I found out I was pregnant with our second baby after our daughter was stillborn last year. I'm so worried about this pregnancy and feel so vulnerable, the idea of moving across the world right now and leaving my comfort zone, my doctors, my support group of friends is really stressing me out. We do have friends in London but I'm not super close to them...
I'm really worried about being in a 'new' city far away from everyone, on my own with a newborn. I know DH will be around as much as he can but he already works 12 hour days so I'm sure with a promotion he'll be working more hours or the same, I'll be on my own a lot. I have a history of depression so PND is a real worry to me.
If we don't go then DH will have to find a new job as the rest of his office is moving to Asia and the field he works in doesn't have much opportunity in Melbourne or really Australia. It's his dream job and a few years doing it would set us up to be able to go wherever we'd like to go after.
I have moved like this before. I'm American and I followed DH to London when we first started dating and then moved to Melbourne a couple years later so I know I'm capable of moving overseas and being happy. But I also wasn't pregnant and I also wasn't traumatized from loosing my baby girl...
I really don't know what to do. I don't want to say no and make DH unhappy and jobless. But I'm scared to go and worried how I'll cope.
Has anyone else made a big move while pregnant, starting in a new city with a newborn? Did it work out? Did you cope?