Egg donation is a big step - we each get to that step at different times and in different ways. If it helps, a summary of whta I know about egg donation is as follows:
- you can use a known donor, someone you know or 'recruit' who has a counselling session, goes through the stims for you, and you get their eggs at the end. On the birth certificate it lists you as the Mother but also says egg donor;
- you can use a donor through the World Egg Bank if you are a Monash IVF patient. The donors as from overseas, their eggs get flown here, your FS here fertilises them and it goes from there, you get a guarantee of 7 eggs but can buy more, the process costs between $25,000 to $40,000 depending on various factors and can take up to a year;
- in Australia egg donation cannot be anonymous, after the child turns 18 yrs they can get the donors details, which is why the WOrld Egg Bank doesn't have too many donors that will allow their eggs to come here and why there are limited Australian egg donors;
- you can go overseas for a donor, popular countries seem to be Greece, Spain, South Africa, Thailand, I think the cost varies depending on where you go. We are going to Greece because DH is Greek and my FS is Greek and has a working relationship with a really reputable clinic in Athens. The entire cost will be around $15,000 to $20,000 including flights, accomodation, the IVF treatment and some holidaying around treatment days. In Greece egg donation is anonymous, we will nver know who the donor was. We are matched to the donor by the clinic based on similarity of appearance and any preferences we have. The birth certificate will just have my name - no reference to egg donor. The success rates (accumulative) for egg donation at my Athens clinic are about 80% (I like those odds!). Coincidentally it's the same clinic as Mary Coustas went to for her egg donor - if you didn't see her story on 60 Minutes you might be able to watch it online.
There is a thread on bubhub for egg donation on Greece that has some links to various sites, try the Serum IVF website - it has some great info about egg donation which is generally helpful. If you google the world egg bank you will also be able to get an idea of how that would work.
But lets hope you don't need to go there just yet, there is a solution for you just around the corner
AFM, I'm now on the pill to down regulate, I start synarel again in a few weeks, then in October I'll be on HRT, so when I fly to Athens on 3 Nov I'll be ready for an embryo transfer after my Greek (egg donor) goddess has her EPU ... 10 weeks to go, I'm pretty excited
Maybebaby, I'm so sorry to hear about your chemical, that's really crap.
Take care both of you x