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    Default Child's birth father kinky lifestyle

    Ok let's say your child's bio father was involved in some "alternative sexual lifestyles" like swinging, violent bdsm and daddy\child kinky roleplay.. Would you be concerned about the parent being around your child? What about if the bio father was also very unreliable and at times would go for like six weeks or so without wanting to see his child? Just curious to see others thoughts. Mods please move this if in wrong section thanks

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    The daddy/child bit might ring alarm bells but as long as this stuff didn't occur when my kid was present... But being unreliable is a whole other story. That needs to get sorted. Kids need stability. It's that simple. Set times for visits and stick with them, it's not rocket science, daddy-o!

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    The sexual preferences wouldn't bother me but the unreliability definitely would be an issue for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atropos View Post
    The daddy/child bit might ring alarm bells but as long as this stuff didn't occur when my kid was present... But being unreliable is a whole other story. That needs to get sorted. Kids need stability. It's that simple. Set times for visits and stick with them, it's not rocket science, daddy-o!
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    Outside of a relationship with him his sexual preferences would not be of my concern. Kinky people are not necessarily more likely to act inappropriately towards children if that is what 'someone' is concerned about..

    The other stuff would bother me though, I don't think it's fair on children for their caregivers to waltz in and out of their lives carelessly.

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    Agreed, the unreliability would be of more concern to me although the daddy/child thing would be ringing a lot of alarm bells. The other parts though... Meh.

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    Did you know that he was into this stuff when you where together ???

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    All of it taken together - yes I'd be concerned. He doesn't sound like a stable influence.

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    Define the child/daddy relationship? In the BDSM world this type of relationship is really popular between 2 consenting adults and in no way is there an actual attraction to children. It's more about a sub/Dom type of thing.
    However if he has shown an interest in children then yes big problem.

    As for him vanishing for 6 weeks that would be a concern.

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