Ever since MIL passed away FIL & BIL expect us to come over every weekend - often both days. This means that right now anything we want to do has to work around going over to see them. I understand that they want to see us but we never used to go over every weekend & having to re-arrange our lives around them is starting to get to me. DH always goes along with it at the expense of stuff we wanted to do, which really peeves me off.
For example, we saw FIL & BIL both days last weekend. This weekend we are meant to be going to an event for both days - as in 9-5 both days. It is pre-booked a long time in advance & FIL is well aware of this. Yet he just called up DH & asked if we will be going over this weekend & now DH wants to. Which means we will either have to cut one of our days short, or go over in the late evening afterwards meaning we get no quiet time to relax. I've had a stressful week & wanted some quiet time.
I understand that he wants to see us, but I also think he needs to understand that we can't necessarily go over every weekend because we have other things we need/want to do.
I also just wish DH would step up & say something - last weekend we were out at the shopping centre & had to cut it short because BIL rang up & 'expected' us to come over 'now' cause he needed help with a project. So, of course DH decided we had to go over right then. BIL wanted us to stay all afternoon, but luckily I had study to do so DH did put his foot down on that one.
Am I being selfish or unreasonable? DH reckons I am. It seems like as far as he is concerned we should just throw our lives away and spend all our spare time at his dad's house. I don't think I can do that and therefore we have an issue........