I need your help! For the past year my now almost 4yo DD has been constantly waking up every night. I've read so many books, searched through so many Internet sites but nothing seems to help. Before this all started she was a 'dream baby' who slept so well but around the age of 3 she started to wake more and more during the night.
Most of books and websites I read usually focus on ways to get your child to sleep initially and that this will the lead to a better night of sleep overall. But my problem is that we have a pretty good bedtime routine (dinner, bath, teeth, book and bed) and my DD generally goes to sleep very well on her own when first going to bed, but the problem is that she then wakes about every three hours after that and comes wandering into my room.
During her middle of the night visits, I have tried the rapid return method of walking her back to her room, the gradual retreat method of sitting in her room until she falls asleep then slowly increasing the distance of where I sit from her bed ... But nothing works.
She says she doesn't like her bed or room and prefers mine, so we even redecorated the room the way she wanted, but that didn't help. She has a night light because she said she was afraid if the dark. She sleeps with the door shut because that's what she prefers.
I don't know what else to do.
At first I thought it was just a phase, but after a year the sleep deprivation is slowly sending me crazy, and what's worse is that I'm moving from part time to full time work in the next few weeks and I don't know how I'm going to cope. I'm so tired that on some nights after returning my child from her first about 11pm that when she comes back in about 2pm sometimes I'm so asleep that I seriously don't even noticed she has crawled into bed until I wake up again in the morning.
Please any feedback, help or advice would be much appreciated.