Hahah omg if anyone tells me off for a smack ( I mean spitting in my face gets a smack!) I will remember to offer them one too. Haha
At home I sometimes have a tantrum next to him and he snaps out of it fast because I look so ridiculous. Imagine me doing that in the shop? Haha if I saw a mum do it I would laugh and tell her that she is awesome but I wouldn't have the guts
Maybe people don't realise how rude they are being..
Another thing ds has started kicking and hitting and we don't hit him or kick him so don't know where he got that from. Might start another thread on that..
I am more likely to judge the parent that buys their child treats when they are having tanties!! I know it's the easier solution at the time but totally sending the wrong message! I get weird looks all the time when I stand in an aisle and wait for my 3 year old to finish having her tanty! Sometimes I pretend to walk off ignoring it (of course still keeping an eye on her at all times). Works wonders! They don't last nearly as long!!
My twins have had some shocking tantrums which they've thankfully grown out of.
There was one not too long ago though and I sent them both to a corner in Subway, they had to stand there and face the wall.
The looks I got whilst I sat there and finished my lunch!
I try to give other Mum's looks of sympathy because I know exactly how it feels.
i never get looks. I usually get a 'i feel ya' smile but ive never had a judgy look. DS is going through the tantrum stage atm and i will let him scream the place down before i give in to a tantrum. I usually walk away and hes definatly getting better at knowing he has to come on. As far as im concerned anyone can look. I dont care what people think!!! I mean really, what do they expect us to do??? I feel as though im doing the right thing my my children (even if they dont think so) and i will continue to do so and anyone who has a problem with it can come and deal with the tantrum!
Last edited by loislane2010; 03-07-2013 at 23:32.
I try to give mums sympathetic smiles when I see them in this situation because that is what I feel for them. I hope when DD is old enough to chuck tantys that I will be brave enough to chuck them alongside her at the shops but if not it will be the 'stand there and ignore her till she is finished' approach or if I am pretty well done I will just pick her up and march her straight out to the car or a quieter corner to finish. I haven't put up with any rubbish from kids so far and I am not about to start with my own. I don't care what people think of that, they are welcome to come a do a perfect job of parenting if they think they can.
When I see someone else dealing with a tanty I usually give a sympathetic smile. If they are really struggling I'll ask if they need a hand with something. DS1 (2.5) has thrown many a tantrum at the shops and I find the 50-60's are the worst for dirty looks - you would think they would be sympathetic - they probably have kids our age with kids of their own?? The looks used to bother me, but now I just hold my head high and carry on.
Anyway, you can't win - DS1 was playing a game with DH in a nearly empty shopping centre where DH was running with the trolley and DS1 was chasing him yelling with delight 'catch daddy, catch daddy!' There were probably 10 other people in the centre (all 50-60's) and oh the filthy looks we were getting!
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