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    Default Screaming toddler at shops

    What do you think when you see a mum with a screaming toddler?
    I was at the shops by myself for once (usually I don't brave it alone) and ds 15m started screaming in his pram. I gave him food but that wasn't good enough. So I went to exit as fast as I could and that was a long walk through the centre to my car with his still upset.

    I am so shocked at the amount of people that turned to stare a me and none of them were giving a nice smile like oh I know how u feel. It was so judging.
    Just makes me want to stay away from all public outings where I'm not close to the car for a fast get away.
    Why would people do that? Seriously I have never been there?? Most were around 50 or so years old so I would have thought they would understand. I think I look young and as I was alone maybe that's what they were judging I don't know. Wierd and just so sad

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    I had the same experience on Monday! Dd 18mths threw a tanty rolling around the shopping centre floor. I just stood waiting for her to stop and I got the worst looks...

    I went home, maybe never to leave the house again!

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    Yeh isn't it best to let them throw it? And once it's over you can rationally talk about why they did it etc?
    That's certainly how I treat them so I would wait if he wasn't in the pram too. Gosh I'm going to get way more "your a bad mum" looks augh

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    I don't know, I just let her throw it then once she was finished we walked off. It's our first major public tanty.

    If it makes you feel any better she was wearing a walking backpack so I was getting "bad mother" looks from everyone.

    I know when I walk past mums having one of those afternoons I give a smile and an understanding look.

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    I tend to just let them have it. I also reinforce my point with " it doesn't matter how long or loud you scream, your not getting xyz. Infact by having this tanty it makes it so you can't have any treats as i don't reward bad behavior."

    I don't care what anyone says or thinks because i know that i am teaching my child that throwimg a tanty doesn't work with me.

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    I just ignore everybody staring, I think I have become used to it, first having dd 4.5 go thru it, now that she's done, ds 3 does it, and next is ds who is still an infant, but I think in the heat of the moment I don't even stop to think is anyone looking. lol.

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    I just treat it the same way I would if I was at home - let it run its course then give her a comforting cuddle (if she will let me!). People who are judgmental of my parenting are not impressive to me and I don't feel I need to keep them happy. Sometimes I have to ask myself, "what would I do if no-one was watching?" I've realised that I have to do what is best for DD, not what is best for my embarrassment.

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    Thankfully we have only had one public tantrum. It was in Target and I just picked DS up and marched him out to the car. I didn't really care what others thought of us or my parenting. Im not one for letting him carry on in public, if he wants to tantrum he knows we are leaving right away.

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    I had to deal with a shocker the other day, dd (a very big nearly 3 yr old) wanted me to carry her, when I told her she is a big girl and can walk she threw herself down on the travelator then proceeded to scream the whole way through the shops. I got Plenty of stares, I just try to ignore it.
    *hugs* op it's not a nice feeling is it!

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    We got stared at 2 nights ago. I've never noticed it before but the amount of people who were looking at us while we struggled with 2 screaming misbehaving boys was ridiculous.

    I was actually quite upset over it.


 

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