5 years ago my sister committed a horrible, humiliating act against me and I cut her away.
Surprisingly, I didn't miss her and my life was all the better for her not being in it as I was free of backbiting and passive/aggressive behaviours etc. I was also free of her interfering husband who is the only person in this life who has ever needed to be slapped. Repeatedly.
However, it hurt my parents and now that I have kids, it upsets them that the family - her kids and our kids - can't be together. (Me, I'm kinda glad about that).
Out of the blue, I received an SMS this week asking for a meeting. She wants to talk. Wants to know if I want to "sort stuff out".
(Edited to add SMS content: Hi Cav! Just letting you know that I'm your area next week as son has a comp on if you are interested in catching up and sorting ****t out. We will be there Wed and Thurs as comp starts Wed but it's pretty full on days so I'll only have between 9-10am if you do want to meet. Realise the weather isn't too good but will leave it up to you and what u want to do. Maybe see you out there! Cheers, Sis)
My first thought was you send me this after 5 years? Who gave you my number? And who put you up to it? Then I thought oh god no. My life is great. I don't need you in it.
While the humiliation and upset is long gone, I simply don't feel anything towards her now. There's never going to be bbqs at each other's houses or long chats over the phone. I would never confide in her. And I don't think I'd ever get an apology from her.
Then I thought how happy it would make my parents to see us in the same room again.
My DH says it's up to me as to whether I go or not, that he'll support me either way as he can't be bothered with her but understands that my parents are hurting over it.
What would you do? And if you went, how would you handle it? Just stumped on this one.