hi ricepudding, I would just ignore the partner. Talk with your parent, ask why there is such behaviour from his/her partner, let your parent know that it is causing you and DH hurt and upsetting family times that should be joyous. If your parent cant get the behaviour to stop, then confront the person. A person at the age of 60 should know the difference between good manners and bad manners. so if the tension doesnt stop, ignore both people. I couldnt be bothered spending time with people who ignored me or my family. Marie.
There is pretty much three things I would do..
1. Make a comment in a joking manner like 'Hey John better be in the picture as little Bobby wouldn't be here without him'.
2. Talk to the parent and tell them that their partners behaviour is causing you stress and upset and ask if the partner has been hurt/offended in some way and can you do anything to repair the situation.
3. Talk to the person.
Failing all of that...move on. Just because they're family (or partnered to family) doesn't mean they have the right to exclude people or be nasty.
Thanks so much for all of your replies. I really appreciate your input. Feeling yuk about it still, so have to do something!
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