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    Default mum trying to get primary care or shared care from abusive dad

    cancelling the post. thanks for your time.
    Last edited by innerlight; 11-07-2013 at 10:18.

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    I really don't know I'm sorry but good luck!

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    Listen, I'm not trying to pour salt in the wound here (trust me, I've been through court and understand how financially crippling it can be) but did you expect a court to be understanding of a mother who left her child behind? Speaking as someone who has been through the family courts, it's not that they don't 'favour the mother' it's that they don't favour the parent who hasn't made the child a priority, and yes it can take up to 18 months to get a final hearing and it can cost THOUSANDS of dollars to get it that far, but 5 nights a fortnight is pretty good if you're not the primary carer. My XH gets 3 nights a fortnight and he tried for 6 nights a fortnight but the magistrate said NO WAY! I hope you find an agreeable shared care arrangement OP. The court system isn't fun for anyone.

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    Thanks for your reply and providing your perspective. as much as I want to defend that I didn't want to leave my child behind, I do understand that is what it look like.

    the court is already costing me tens of thousands. and to start with, dad is the one who put the application in and start all these, he claimed that he want sole custody and supervised visit only for me. I have spent 2 years trying to negociate and avoid going to the court, but no everyone is sensible to talk. For me , going to the court is the only way to get some certainty of having time with my son.

    Again I appreciate your time to reply, I do think you are in a much luckier situation, having the primary care of the child. and it is ok to put salt in my wound, you are not the only one. If I were you ,I will think the same.

    and putting my stories here, I am just trying to see if there is anyone in a similar situation. I still love my child, and not as heartless as you imagine me to be.

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