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    Default 7 month old takes up to two hours to fall asleep at night

    Hi! I'm at my wits end here. I have a beautiful 7 month old boy who I love to bits. After a bit of a rocky start with sleeping, and three trips to Tresillian, up until last week he was sleeping 1-2 hours in the morning and 1-2 hours in the afternoon, sometimes 40 mins in the late afternoon, then falling asleep at 6.30pm and sleeping through to 7.30am (with one or two dummy re-insertions). Self settling within 10-15 mins for every sleep. Dream baby really. He is still great with his naps (most days) but the evening sleep has been a disaster for one week and counting. Nothing has changed. He has his bedtime routine etc, but it's taking us 1.5-2 hours every night to get him to sleep. He screams like a toddler having a tantrum in the shopping centre. We've tried patting him, rocking him in arms, singing to him etc and nothing works. When we are in the room he will lie there quietly, but as soon as we try to leave even the side of the cot, he starts screaming. He's clearly exhausted but he won't stop. This happens whether it's been 2 hours or 5 since he woke up from his last nap. Sometimes he falls asleep at the beginning for 20 mins and then wakes up screaming. I have no idea what to do and my husband is going away for work soon and the idea of dealing with this alone is freaking me out. Does anyone have any suggestions, or know what this might be? Hoping it's a phase.

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    Gosh that sounds exhausting. You poor mummy. I'm sorry I don't have any real advice but at that age it could be separation anxiety? Is he afraid of being alone in the dark?
    Does the room have a night light? We use a glowing teddy bear that changes colour and it distracts him when falling asleep in the dark.

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    Oh gosh hugs. Sounds exactly like my ds who started at the same age. He is now 16 months and has kind of grown out of it.

    I have no solution as nothing worked for me. Not even tough love. I just suffered through it. All I can recommend is to try and get someone else to do it at keast once a week and you go to maccas and have a coffee/cake until he's asleep.

    Unfortunately for me df is fifo and I have no family or friends here to help out so I made df do it 5 nights of the 6 he was home every 2 weeks.

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    Wow that's a long time to fall asleep!! Good on you for keeping it up!
    I'd say it's separation anxiety, does he fall asleep if you lay down with him?
    When you leave the room how long does he cry for? Im not saying to let him cry or do control cry however its happened to me with DD that I'd stay in the room to try and put her to sleep and one night I was alone at home and I had to leave to go to the bathroom, she cried but by the time I got back she was asleep. Could it possibly be that he wants you to be there but finds it distracting to fall asleep with you there? have you tried giving him a few minutes to see if he settles on his own?
    Other common issues are lights or tv on just before bed, cold, teeth, earaches...

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    Thought I would add that my ds screamed from the moment I put him down. If I picked him up he was fine but he wouldnt go to sleep. Not even after 2 hours of rocking patting shhhhhing nothing.

    And the scream was that of someone being murdered. Not a wah wah I'm sad come back. Ear piercing, painful, make him choke and vomit screaming.

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    Thanks so much for the responses. Tonight my husband put him down asleep at 6.40 because he fell asleep while drinking his bottle. He woke up screaming at 7.00, and finally went to sleep at 8.30. He woke up screaming again at 9.00 and finally fell asleep by 9.30 after drinking another bottle. I'm still not comfortable that he's down (it's 10.15).

    Funnell - I've wondered if it's the dark because his naps are fine and it's the only thing that's different. He has a nightlight that projects stars onto the ceiling. It's always been there. He also a vaporisor that has a nightlight.

    ciaomamma - we've tried leaving him for 10 minutes at a time a couple of times, but it doesn't work, he just gets hysterical. We left him for 15 one night because staying in the room with him clearly wasn't working, and I hate even admitting this, but he got so worked up that he vomited everywhere when I picked him up. I felt terrible. I've considered teeth but he has two already and has never behaved like this. You never know though!

    Turk - You have described the scream exactly. He would be fine in my arms but not asleep and that scream starts as I lower him into the cot. I really don't know how you did this for so long without your partner around all the time. Hats off to you, seriously. It's just so strange because he was so good at bedtime before this started!

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    How exhausting for you!

    Just wondering is DS big for his age? Is it possible he's hungry?

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    Sally you must have my son's twin. Lol. By any chance is he your first? (Not implying you're neurotic or anything just wondering for really good reasons)

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    Mrsharvey - He's right on average size for his age. Most nights he's not hungry because he won't even finish the bottle at 6.30, even when he hasn't fallen asleep.

    Turk - I think I do have your son's twin! LOL. This is my first. I'm not particularly neurotic, but in case it isn't obvious, I do tend to overanalyse things!


 

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