Hi, not sure if this belongs here. Just move to appropriate section & msg me the link. This place is quite confusing.
Anyway....We've been having some fibbing issues w/ our 6yo son. At first it was no big deal & i'm sure most kids tell small lies here & there. I'm quite stern & strict when it comes to this issue but try not to be so militant but more understanding.
I do not allow our son to Have Ice Cream or Icy Poles, anything of that nature because he tends to get sick after he consumes them. I obviously do not allow him to have any of those things while he is sick/coughing/sniffling etc. One time he came home from school, he had the sniffles & did not look too well. So i asked him several times if he had bought an icy pole @ school (they have icy pole day every Wednesdays). He answered numerous times that he did not. His mum asked him also several times and he answered the same. W/ my own little interrogation techniques i finally got him to confess that indeed he did. I told him we were very disappointed that he had lied to both of us but did not punish him since he owned up to it. I encourage honesty and even reward it even if they had lied prior - We still appreciate the honesty.
Any way that was near the start of the school year when it was still summer. Recently he has had a cold for almost 2 months. He did get better at the very start of the 2 months but oddly got sick when he was just getting better. So again i asked him wether he had bought an icy pole at school, telling him that his cold just improved and now he has gotten worse. I asked him more than a dozen times & he answered no each time. My wife asked him numerous times also & said no each time too. Weeks whent by and decided to ask him again wether he had bought an icy pole that time.....i asked him about 6 times & he answered no each time. So i decided to do my Daddy, tricky interrogating once more and finally got it out of him that he did again buy an icy pole @ that time when i asked him and he said no. He revealed he had burrowed money from one of his friends to purchase the icy pole.
I was extremely disappointed at that point @ let him know it. He lied to my face numerous times in a span of 2 minutes - not to mention the many times he lied to my wife and i weeks prior. I talked to him about the importance of honesty and how we encourage honesty in the house. I told him how very disappointed we were that he had lied to us so many times about it. I lectured him for over 15 minutes & also punished him for it. I believed he had gotten the point.
I was wrong................
Just recently he had gotten a little better. Today i picked him up from school and he told me his right ear was hurting. His nose was also constantly dripping and had to blow it every so often. In my mind i was thinking no way after that long talk would he have bought an icy pole @ school w/out telling us again. We also had parent teacher interview last Friday & we mentioned to his teacher in front of him about this issue. But i decided to asked him if he bought an icy pole anyway. Again he said 'no'. I have a good instinct for his lies (reason why i caught him out the 1st time) and had that sick feeling again. Any way, throughout the evening asked him numerous times if he had an icy pole.....answer was 'no' each time. All this while his constantly blowing his nose & complaining that his ear is hurting (pretty sure he has an ear infection). My wife comes home from work and she questions him about wether he had bought an icy pole because his getting worse again. He denied it each time. So i did my trick interrogation once more but this time did not work but i kinda caught him out a little, he slipped abit and something did not smell right. We left it at that and told him we believed him. But i knew something was up and had a really sick feeling in my gut.
........So i sent him to bed but said we'd play hangman before he sleeps. He was in a better mood after all that interrogating. My word was 'Icy Pole'. So while he was guessing letters he was having fun and i was trying to make him feel better about the whole situation. He was far more upbeat and happy. Once he guessed that the word was Icy Pole i whent in for the kill & got him to finally confess that he again lied and did indeed buy a chocolate billabong at his school tuck shop today.
HOW ABSOLUTELY SHOCKED,DEVESTATED, DISAPPOINTED & FRUSTRATED I AM. Wich lead me to post this, to not only vent but ask for some advice and thoughts on this situation.