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    Default When your kids call you names.

    And I don't just mean macaroni head or something silly like that.

    This morning 6 year old DS called me a s####d f#####g dumb mum.
    I am totally devastated and hurt.
    He's obviously picked it up from school (he has no siblings).

    I'm just so sad and hurt right now. I was that mad that I couldn't even answer back. I just told him not to speak to me for the rest of the morning.

    I'm at work now and I'm still devastated.

    Sorry, rant over


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    sorry no advice but *hugs*. I don't know what I'd do, say, or feel if jasper said that.

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    I'm so sorry That must have sucked!

    I doubt he knew what he was saying, especially if he's never heard it from you before. I know the first time DD said stupid I asked her if she knew what it meant, and when she said no, I explained and then we had a huge discussion about how using that word towards someone can really hurt their feelings. She had no idea! Had just heard it and wanted to try it out. I imagine it was the same for your son. Maybe when you're home tonight, sit down with him and have a chat? Explain how upset you were. I doubt he'd do it again if he knew it hurt your feelings.

    OP, hope your day gets better xx

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    Wow! I'd be devastated if one of my children spoke to me like that.
    It's obviously something he has just heard elsewhere.
    I'd sit him down tonight and explain why you don't call people names and how hurtful it is, as well as that language being completely unacceptable.

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    I would probably do what you did and ask them not to speak to me and to stay away from me because I am really disappointed in their behaviour and although I love them, right now I need some space before I get really really angry (actually I have done this before).

    I would also have a calm conversation later on about how inappropriate their behaviour and language was.


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    How are you now? Did you talk to him about it?

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    I did sit him down last night and spoke about it.
    I told him that mummy was sad all day, and they were very nasty words that he used and those sorts of words hurt peoples feelings.
    He said he understood and was sorry.

    This morning I helped him get dressed for school, he gave me a big hug and said I am the best mum in the whole world

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    Oh wonderful!

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