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    Default Would you be disappointed if your bff.......

    Wasn't going to your dads funeral?

    My dad passed away .....my bff just emailed to say she couldn't make the funeral..no reason, just said she wouldn't be able to go. She lives 3 hours away so it would be a long day.....she works ft. At first i wasnt bothered but now i feel quite disappointed.....i have another friend who is staying two nights to attend it....my sisters bf is going etc. i feel quite let down actually...in fact im a bit miffed now.....should i be? I would definitely attend her parents funeral.

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    Firstly my deepest condolences to you and your family .

    In answer to your question, yes, I would be 'dissapointed' that's for sure, especially if it were someone as close to me as my best friend, as that would be the one time I would want to lean on my bff for support.

    I would also be disappointed in getting an 'email' and no reason given, I think that's poor form and would definitely not blame you for being miffed.

    Again, I am very sorry for you loss.

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    I'm sorry to hear about your father

    Yes, I would be very upset if my bestie did that. Barring a very good reason, she should be there.

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    I am so sorry for your loss

    I'd be dissapointed if it were my bestie. But looking at it from the other side, my DHs mother passed away recently and one of his friends couldn't attend, but we later found out if was because they'd lost a relative earlier in the year and couldn't face another funeral. I think they can be daunting experiences for people, and some people also just don't know how to handle a grieving friend

    But even if that were the case, a phone call or face to face would have be nice.

    Again, so sorry for your loss

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    Yes I would be very upset, of course your best friend should be there. So sorry for your loss, look after yourself xx

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    No, I don't think I would be upset or disappointed. I'm sorry for your loss

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    Yes, I would be. My BFF is pretty close to my father. If she was not coming, I would assume there was something else going on, perhaps an emotional or mental health related reason.

    I'm so sorry for your loss.

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    Yep, if it was my bestie I'd be really upset unless she gave me a very good reason why she couldn't come.

    So sorry for your loss

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    So sorry for your loss.

    I lost my father a few years ago and my BFF was no where to be seen. It was very distressing for me especially seeing my brother and sisters friends always there to support her. My dad was home for 2 weeks before he past away and my BFF didn't even come to see him.

    To this day I feel resentment towards her especially because when her brother passed away years before my dad I didn't leave her house for two weeks, cooking cleaning etc.

    You have every right to be disappointed and upset.

    Again so sorry

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    Im so sorry for you loss. I lost my Mum in January and I miss her so much.

    I would be upset but there may be an emotional reason for it. Something I figured out when losing Mum was that everyone handles death differently and some people are actually petrified of being around someone who is grieving because they really dont know how they should act. She should be there to support you but maybe she just doesnt know how to. She might feel if she opens up to you about it that you will think it shouldn't be about her and it should be about you. I agree she should be there for you to lean on and you should be annoyed but there might be something further going on there that you are not aware of. X


 

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