Mumming is hard sometimes.
Mumming is hard sometimes.
There are several things you can start to do, but sometimes a clingy child simply needs their mum.
Distraction - start with short distractions, like sending him to the bedroom to put away or get *said* toy and then, getting down to his level quietly congratulate him - from this he learns that it's safe to leave AND come back to you. Build up the length of time and /or the number of distractions.
Build his confidence and encourage quiet time NEXT to you, then slightly further away but within reach until he can occupy himself within his view of you.
Have a 'date' with your DD when someone else looks after him.
There's a time for loud, boisterous play, like at the park or in the yard. Encourage active play and start to teach him shared active play (the precursor to team sports) where you do things like taking turns and also kick-to-kick.
It will not be easy as some kids have a need to be held and hugged by their parents - it's NOT being naughty.
I have similar thing happen with my kids. Katelyn will be totally fine, then jasper sits in my lap to show me something or cuddle or chat and she'll crack it and try to fight him for her spot in my lap.
It's hard. I don't know what to do really either. I try joking with jasper to diffuse it a bit because he gets hurt emotionally that she's not nice to him (she's 15 months) or sometimes she's tired so I do need to say to him that I'll settle her to sleep and then give him some time, and sometimes I do have to just let her tantrum and give him a cuddle, so he knows that he's still just as precious to me as she is.
They are so good with each other so much of the time I really can't complain, it's getting to the stage where two is "easier" because they do play together quite a bit. But it is confronting having them fighting for me, particularly when mine bonk heads occasionally too. I need more arms.
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I think you are expecting way too much from your youngest.
Use nap times for special time with dd or weekends like you did today...best for everyone
I need more arms too! If I had 4, this parenting gig would be way easier!
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My DS is exactly the same, though my older two are 9 and 7, so understand a lot more. I think it is mostly an age thing. I just try to include my lo in what we are doing, and save truly one on one things for naptime. It gets better as they understand that mum can be shared
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