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    well Im 11 dp2dt..did another HPT this morning and still BFN I think you are so right Sharlee about HPTs. Im technically not due for AF til tomorrow morning but because ive done the stupid test this morning I am so down and not confident at all i'll get a BFP on my BT tomorrow. I wish I had of taken your advice earlier and stopped testing..but its so hard. This TWW is the hardest thing. My poor DH is trying his hardest to keep me positive but...well...all you ladies know how hard that is

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    Emzy - dont feel too bad hun. I am in the same boat and honestly feel that whatever way you find out, be it test or BT - you still experience the same disappointment. If by chance you still get a positive BT then you will be all the more shocked! Good luck.

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    Actually I have another question to ask. It is with much trepadition that my cousin is coming in a couple of weeks to visit with her new baby.. I am kind of dreading it as I know already I am expected to meet and adore the baby and listen to all my family clucking over the baby ect and I just don't want to as I know it will upset me. I actually feel like a bit of a ***** for it but last year when she came while pregnant we had a large family BBQ and all anyone could talk about was the pregnancy and the baby my parents included and I actually had to keep walking away from them as it upset me.I have always being fairly close to my cousin as we are near in age and she has being one of the only ones from my family to offer support through IVF and I have admired the baby from afar which is fine...

    So what I want to know is do I just suck it up or should I try to kind of say no to any invitations of BBQ's ect. What would you lladies do? I don't think anyone ever understands just how hard it is for us IVFer's and I know my Mum just expects me to be ultra excited that the babies coming but I can't be when my own cycle just went flop.

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    Sharlee - hugs. Its so hard sometimes but I'm sure most other women in here have been in a similar situation. I think its important to remember that your cousin mostly likely feels worried that her coming with a new baby will upset you. She will feel bad for it and have it in mind. Of course it wont stop everyone fussing but I think its important to remain happy for your friends and loved ones - even though you are sad and longing for a baby of your own after so much disappointment. Try and separate the two feelings.

    Of all my friends - I have been TTC the longest. Many of my closest friends have either fallen pregnant and/or had their babies and I am still trying. My cousin who is the closest thing I have to a sister is 3 months pregnant - however she had a tough road getting there herself and conceived through IVF. My friends often apologise to me every time they complain about being pregnant or a rough night with their babies etc. Honestly I am genuinely happy for them - I tell them not to be silly, even though I want a baby more than anything right now - it is not their fault and they shouldn't feel bad for it coming easy for them.

    So, my advice kind of goes along the lines of suck it up, be there for those who you know are rooting for you and have faith that eventually your time will come. Try to separate your emotions and know that its ok to feel sorry for yourself, but try to keep the jealousy away and be happy for others xxx

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    Sharlee you might not be looking forward to it, but being around babies when trying to get pregnant by any means is actually a good thing - it's very good positive energy and some studies suggest that it can help our bodies want to get into baby making mode! It's something to do with the nurturing instincts within a close knit community or "clan". It's effects can be noticed when close friends, family members or work colleagues tend to fall pregnant around the same time. Having babies around can signal to your body that there is an abundance of food & it's a good time to reproduce.

    When my sister had each of her 4 babies, there were little moments where I imagined they were mine when I was holding them. No one has to know that's what you're thinking, and it might be something that works well for you - including releasing some lovely endorphins. I have always found it much easier to focus on the baby itself, rather than the mother. It's very easy to feel jealous towards a woman who has achieved something you want with all your heart & soul, but it's different thing with the babies themselves.

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    Sharlee I think that you've been given some great advice but in reality you are the only one who can make a decision like that. My advice is to do whatever your heart and mind tell you to do. I do think it would be nice for you to go to the family bbq and try your hardest to be happy for your cousin (as she has been one of a very few who have supported you through your IVF journey) but if you feel like you need some time out, take it! excuse yourself and disappear for a while to give yourself time to take a breather...perhaps before you go to the bbq let your DH know how you are feeling and have some sort of signal or sign to show him when you feel you need that time out so you can slip away and he can quietly slip out with you. you sound to me to be the kind of person who always tries their best for others and that's why you get so upset when you don't get the same in return. Try to be strong and remember this is your cousins turn to shine but soon it will be yours...and by the sounds of it she'll be right there with you. Hugs to you and I hope you get through it ok

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    Hi Sharlee - its a hard call and I know how you feel - I currently have 10 friends all preg. and its hard to listen to them complaining about something that I would love. Having said that no one knows that I'm doing IVF so you can't blame them. My advice would be to do what is best for you. You need to take care of yourself right now and if having a cuddle with the baby or staying away is best for you then so be it.

    On another note - Does anyone have experience with OHSS? I have my EPU on Monday however I got a call today saying that my levels are really high and if they don't go down they will still take my eggs however they will have to freeze them due to potential OHSS. I just did some research and found that I should not have had my shot today and my trigger shot should be less to combat this. I now can't check this with the clinic as they are closed and my trigger injection is tonight at 9.30pm. So upset.

    Fx for all those on the 2ww

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    Ruby I can't give you too much advice about OHSS but personally I think it's best to go along with whatever your clinic told you to do in the first place. We can't help ourselves but research everything we're going through, but it does drive us nuts wondering if we're doing the best thing possible!

    Have another look through your paperwork- I know my clinic has an after hours number to call in emergencies so I would think yours may too?

    I'm having my trigger tonight and the nurse told me to still have my usual gonal f & cetrotide doses in the morning.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Ruby33 View Post
    Hi Sharlee - its a hard call and I know how you feel - I currently have 10 friends all preg. and its hard to listen to them complaining about something that I would love. Having said that no one knows that I'm doing IVF so you can't blame them. My advice would be to do what is best for you. You need to take care of yourself right now and if having a cuddle with the baby or staying away is best for you then so be it.

    On another note - Does anyone have experience with OHSS? I have my EPU on Monday however I got a call today saying that my levels are really high and if they don't go down they will still take my eggs however they will have to freeze them due to potential OHSS. I just did some research and found that I should not have had my shot today and my trigger shot should be less to combat this. I now can't check this with the clinic as they are closed and my trigger injection is tonight at 9.30pm. So upset.

    Fx for all those on the 2ww
    Hi Ruby, when it comes to OHSS I have the experienceas I had to cancel my first (May/June) cycle because of it and believe me when they say you should put off ET until next cycle it really is the best thing as having an ET can actually make it worse As far as the trigger shot goes Ive not heard that its best not to take it because without that they cant do EPU. I went in to have my EPU and it was discovered that I had 21 eggs collected and because of the high number my ET would be cancelled and all our embies (after icsi) were to be frozen. I was devastated at the time but it was for the best. Knowing what I know now about the TWW there is no way I would have wanted to go through that with the physical strain OHSS can cause on top. Although it may seem to be bad news to have to put off this months cycle try to look at the one positive of OHSS...it usually means LOTS of beautiful eggies to fertilize instead of just a few...hope this helps a little

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    I'm pretty sure I had mild OHSS with my last cycle, but I was feeling fine by ET day, so you never know how you are going to go.


 

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