I have been trying the ssh pat routine with my 4 month old for the last couple of months and it still isn't working can someone offer any advice as to what I am doing wrong. When she shows tired signs (usually 2 hours after being awake) I swaddle her in her room and cuddle her until she just closes her eyes. Then I lay her in the cot and pat her to re-settle and gradually slow pats until she is asleep and I leave. The last couple of weeks it was finally starting to work but now she screams every time I put her down when I try to roll her to the side to pat her back she arches and screams. It's taking me hours to get her to sleep and she's never been a good sleeper ie 30 min naps during the day and still waking multiple times at night. The other night she slept in 2 hour blocks but it took me 2 hours to settle her to sleep each time she woke. I'm exhausted and so over it I feel like all I do is try and put her to sleep. I don't understand why it's not working?? What am I doing wrong??