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    Have you thought about going to speak to someone to work through your feelings? It may have been a long time ago but it can still seriously effect you.

    Im sorry you had a horrible childhood, that is absolutely awful. No one should have to be raised like that. Im awfully sorry.

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    The only person who l've spoken to about it is DP. I'm not sure why l've been so sad recently...it has only been the last few nights where l lie in bed and think about it all. During the day maybe l don't get the chance to think about it as l'm chasing DD around


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    I'm really sorry you had such an abusive childhood . I did too but not physically more emotionally.

    I think maybe a counsellor would be good. I found Relationships Australia to be great and they didn't cost much.

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    I understand how your feeling i didnt exactly have the best upbringing myself. (Parents were extremely young and both have phsycological issues which were taken out on me) I think that the best thing to probably do is to seek out some help on how to cope on those down days, it helps to talk about it even if its only woth ur DP. With me I feel like I will never forget what happened and i do sit and get sad about the things that did happen but I also try to take on the thought that despite the bad things that happened i am who i am today and i have what i have and appreciate that fact 100x more then most others would. Chin up we are all entitled to have bad days but there will always be good ones to follow them.

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    I understand. As a child of physical and emotional abuse that went on for all my childhood I can relate to everything you said in your op. I lived in foster homes from ages 9-13 because the abuse at home just got so bad. It took me a very long time to heal, forgive and move on but I did it. Hugs to you. I hope you find peace. I think the most important thing for you to know is that none of it was your fault, that you are not bad or unloveable or not good enough. Xxx

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    I had a horrible childhood as well. It haunted me well into my 20's (I'm 33 now). I understand how you feel. The best thing I did was to receive some counselling. It was hard but it allowed me to get it all out and the counsellor was great.

    I've finally forgiven my parents but it didn't happen for a long time, I struggled to even see them. I am determined to not be anything like them. Look after yourself and if you ever need to talk pm me.

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    I couldnt read and not reply. I'm so sorry you've had to deal with this physical and emotional abuse, no child should ever have to have anything like this happen to them. I think counseling would be helpful too

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    Mine wasn't the best at times, Mum was never physically loving, never hugged me, and certainly never said she loved me.
    I know she was under a lot of stress at the time, as my father was an abusive alcoholic, and she also had 2 older children that he was stepfather to, but it was not a fun environment to live in for the first 13 years of my life until we left my father.

    I definitely recommend counselling.

    Bad memories coming up is going to be a very natural process, it's part of the grief process, and will probably keep coming up now you have a child of your own, her presence will be triggering the memories.

    There is however a difference between the occasional bad memory which comes then goes, and having your mind grab onto these memories and begin to obsess about them. When the thoughts just won't go away, and actually start affecting your emotions to a noticeable degree, and for a long term, then you need to actively take charge of the situation.

    Counselling can help with this, being a carthartic process, the other thing whch helps me is to allow the thoughts in my head for a short while, but if they are not moving away naturally, and getting me down, I have to step in, and make myself think of certain unrelated topics, and actually monitor my thoughts for anything that is 'unhelpful'. The knowledge that I alone am in charge of my thoughts, and can change them at any time, is just an amazing breakthruough for me, I really never considered I was in charge, I thought that the thoughts I had, I was stuck with. Nothing is further from the truth.

    Take care, it's a long process, but one that can be made easier, especially if you can find a good counseller to open up to.
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    Yes I did. At the hands of my father. Thank goodness for my Mother. I've never seen a counsellor but my DH changed my life when I met him. Talk to a counsellor. I wish I had sooner. I'm living with some health issues now from it all. Feel free to PM me if you like. All the best



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