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    Default How long did you wait for help?

    Just wondering how long others have waited to seek help with fertility? We have been having unprotected sex for 10 months now, probably actively trying for about 8 months. GP has said if it doesn't happen within 12 months come back, hubbys sperm was tested couple years ago before 3rd bub and he has some lazy sperm but normal count. I had an ultrasound recently when they found an inflammation in my bowel and results said probable polycystic ovaries but technician said my ovaries looked good??? I haven't had it looked into yet. Should we start looking into it now? We are younger (24 & 29) but our other children are closer in age and i'm just concerned that leaving too big a gap would not suit our family as much (not that it's up to us). When I see people trying for 2+ years is this by choice? If things didn't work for us within 12 months could we seek IVF or other fertility treatments sooner? Any advice appreciated...

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    If you go to a fertility specialist, I guarantee that they'll say you need IVF simply because of the time/motility issues. Nowadays, if its been 6 months with no result then many will use this as justification to recommend treatment and all too often, without exploring other options first. Their thinking is that the most successful outcome will be from IVF which is true, but its like telling someone who is slightly chubby they should have gastric banding as a first option- sure, it'd work but there are less invasive options. A few thoughts
    -You are really young, this is a great thing.
    - have you had an AMH test done or been told about your egg quality?
    - you only need one sperm to get pregnant, and sperm are really determined little fellows
    - IVF should be your last option, not the first.
    - are you timing intercourse right? My husband and I were too late and needed to dtd earlier than what we were
    - having sex every day is a great form of contraception.

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    Also, look at ovulation induction if you're really worried.

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    Generally, if you are younger they say 12months and 6 months for those 35+.

    We tried for 18months before asking for a referral.

    Don't think that ivf is your only option, there are a few things you can try first like Clomid, IUI etc.

    I think you should find another GP and just say it's been 12months+ If a previous SA showed lazy swimmers it's possible it has worsened over time. As someone who's been ttc for 4 years (def not by choice) I don't recommend waiting. It pays to be proactive.

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    Thanks for your help I feel silly asking because I've fallen pregnant 4 times (1 m/c) but TTC stresses me out which I know doesn't help. The first 3 times we fell pregnant easily but my son took over a year and now I feel worried we are heading the same direction. It's also hard because DS1 still shares our bed so hubby and I find it a little bit harder to find the time lol. But yes I understand what you're saying, I know it's a last resort, and there are probably many more options first, but I'd just like to do "something" to see if anything can help

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    Have you tried Natural Therapies? You could try this for a while if you're not ready for IVF. The fact you have succeeded three times I would assume doctors would just tell you to keep trying. But I agree with the girls, fudge your numbers if you keep getting turned down. We did and it saved us months of heartache and disappointment.

    There are many different reasons people dont go to IVF and keep trying, religion, finances or simply not thinking that they need IVF or "we'll just try one more month"

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    Are you both on vitiamins? I would get hubby on them if not already. Also consider natural remedies, macca powder etc. Cutting out toxins etc. We tried almost everything before going to a fertility clinic as I wanted to make sure we had explored all avenues. Luckily we fell pregnant at the 11th hour (+12 months TTC). But like PP said your partners previous results may be worth investigating further as that may impact the timeframe. Best of luck =)

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    Definately fudge the dates in my opinion too! We tried for about 9 months naturally before seeking drs advice. We had to say we'd been trying 12 months before they ran any tests as I was 27. Turned out my AMH level was 1 which is terrible. We were referred straight to an IVF clinic. Wish I'd gone in earlier. A few tests can't hurt. Most are self funded so they really shouldn't say no. It will be good for you to have an updated idea about what's going on with your bodies.

    Im waiting to start my 3rd IVF cycle and have been a little sneaky by getting a GP to give me clomid. May as well try in the meantime!!!

    Good luck to you all!

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    Hay dreamy4

    my husband and I have been trying for 9 months now...and the fertility clinics will not see us until we have tried to 12 months. Cause apparently your not considered infertile until you've been trying for 12 months. Joke I say... It makes me mad to think that I could have my own bundle of job by now...but I keep trying to keep a positive mind


 

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