However when life throws a new situation at your child it is part of a parents role to help them navigate their way through it in the way you feel is best.
By choosing to 'not' address these concepts and ideas you have given him direction as a parent. The direction you gave (by saying nothing to the contrary) is;
1. It's ok to think that kids that dress differently to what you usually see is "lame"
2. That football is a boys game and not for girls.
Now, if these are your beliefs then I guess you navigated him in the way you wanted to.
I would prefer that you just missed the opportunity to realign his thinking.
I prefer to think that after the feedback you have received here you will be more attentive in future and won't let future opportunities pass you by....😉
My DS started playing league at age 5, my cousin is the coach and is a woman. for the first two years there was one little girl in the team and I must say, for the first season she was the best player in the team, none of the boys in the team ever said anything and were sad to lose her when she decided to stop.
This year when our team went to play another team, the other team began ribbing our kids, pointing and laughing that " they have a girl coach" and " a girl coach, we will flog them".
Our team & parents were surprised and disappointed in this, where does it come from?
Anyway we won and clearly were the better team!
I've worked in child care for many years and boys love putting dresses on, most of the time it's dad who isn't impressed.
I picked my 2 year old DS up from daycare and he was wearing a wedding dress, loved it and had it on all day apparently. When we got home , I went to his DS dress up box and got him a dress, he loved it.
I wish I could find my favourite photo of my brother in a dress! He loved them! Actually, he went out dressed as the Queen this Queen's birthday holiday!
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Bp's son said the word "lame" between him and his mum. He didn't go out and say it to anyone. Stop over analyzing everything. She didn't say she found it acceptable for him to bully anyone. It's just a word he used to describe what he thought. How do you know his mum taught him this word? !? You all assumed and attacked her for it and said that it was a reflection of her parenting. So none of your kids pick up things from other kids ever? And do they tell you every word of their conversation and situation they were in? Just like you want to teach your children to be accepting of others no matter how they look or dress, take your own advice.
Gender based clothes? So what?!?
None of you judge others for anything ever? You know in some parts in India some ppl defecate wherever they can find a spot in PUBLIC...a friend's ex husband witnessed that himself a few years ago. If your kid saw that in the streets of Melbourne or wherever you live would you say to your child oh that's ok or not judge because for that person it's normal! !! You would think it's disgusting wouldn't you?
And yes I know using public grounds as a toilet and boys wearing dresses are 2 different things but it goes to show that not everyone is not going to be okay with everything and they shouldn't have to be. Indians in india might think it's an ok thing to do but it sure as hell isn't acceptable in Australia.
I'll never let my son go out in a dress out in public ever. He can do what he wants at home. That's my choice and I really don't see the need for it either or see it as a supression of his personal expression.
What wr can do as parents is teach our children about different ppl out there and how to be tolerant of other people's differences, choices in life and religions/cultures.
I'm not ok with someone defecating in public, because its illegal and unhygienic amongst other things. A boy wearing a dress? Who is that offending? A small group of frankly, pretty horrible people. Who gives a crap if you're not ok with it.... You're narrow minded. Simple as that.
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