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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    Once again you can not blame parenting for a boy thinking that another boy wearing a dress is wrong. Seeing as we have never seen this or spoken about it I can only think that society is what makes children like mine think it is 'lame'
    And once again, this was your golden opportunity to teach him that his response was unacceptable.

    You seem determined to ignore me, so I'll stop beating my head against a wall. But know that if any child ever calls my son "lame" for what he chooses to wear, that child will be disciplined for bullying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    The Spider-Man costume, no he probably wouldn't bat an eyelid.

    Football was
    Last week an there was a girl in the team they were playing. Our team was shocked and no one wanted to tackle her.
    When ds came off the field he asked why there was a girl playing as he said "it's a boys game"

    Another example of how society effects our children.
    This kinda explains it to me..

    And to show you how outdated this thinking is, I remember hearing it in the mid 80's when my old, fogey, stuck in the 1800's teacher was arguing that girls in my grade shouldn't play footy - that was nearly 30 years ago!
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    Now you are just being silly, that isn't society, that is you. My kids know that I was an avid soccer player when I was younger - they wouldn't bat an eyelid at a girl playing sports

    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    The Spider-Man costume, no he probably wouldn't bat an eyelid.

    Football was
    Last week an there was a girl in the team they were playing. Our team was shocked and no one wanted to tackle her.
    When ds came off the field he asked why there was a girl playing as he said "it's a boys game"

    Another example of how society effects our children.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    Just take a step back. No one called anyone 'lame' and I wouldn't accept him to talk to anyone that way.

    If your son said a top you were wearing was lame what would you do? Ignore it? Say something?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ~Bec~ View Post
    BP - would your DS have the same reaction if he saw a girl wearing a superman dress up or a something equally 'boyish' as he would if he saw a boy wearing a dress? I'm guessing the answer is no.

    For some reason society seems to think it is ok for girls to take on traditional 'boy' behaviours but heaven forbid if a boy should take on 'girl' behaviours!! Oh no!! *Cue sky falling in*
    This is what I don't get. My DD has worn many "boy" dressups, and frequently wears "boy" clothes, because she loves Toy Story, and the majority of Toy Story stuff is marketed towards boys. Apart from one random and totally odd comment from an acquaintance who asked when I was going to "let" DD be a girl, all we get is comments about how cute she is. I personally would expect the same acceptance should DS love Peppa Pig or Angelina or similar. I thought it was normal for kids to not have gender biases.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    Just take a step back. No one called anyone 'lame' and I wouldn't accept him to talk to anyone that way.
    Not to their face, not this time. But when you failed to tell him his response was unacceptable what you inadvertently did was teach him that is was perfectly fine. So if (when?) he goes on to say it out loud, he'll be mighty confused when he's pulled up for it by someone else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    Ok I'm wrong.

    When we see a boy wearing a dress I will sit down and talk to my ds about that. I'm not going to pull it up when he is 6 years old
    Why on earth not? He clearly already has opinions on the matter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    How does a 6 year old even know the word lame?
    My DS wouldn't know the word "lame". He doesn't even know what "bum" means. The meanest thing he could say is that something was silly.

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    Maybe you should buy him "the boy in the dress" by David walliams. Great read, you could read it together.

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