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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    You can not alwys blame the child an the parent.

    For my son to think it is lame for a boy to wear a dress. This is not becUse I have sat him down and told him that's how it is.
    I get that BP, but these are the opportunities as parents to ya know, parent and talk about why it's not ok to say a kids lame for doing that, that's it's not a tolerant point of view to have.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    I am not about to sit him down and go over everything that he should accept. Cross each bridge as we come to it.
    But you *were* crossing this bridge, you were standing right on it feeding the ducks! He told you he thought it was lame, that's the point at which you could teach him all kinds of lessons about tolerance, respect, unique differences, and kindness. Unless... You share his view?

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    I get that BP, but these are the opportunities as parents to ya know, parent and talk about why it's not ok to say a kids lame for doing that, that's it's not a tolerant point of view to have.
    It's only worth a chat if someone teases someone else for wearing a power ranger's costume.

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    BP - would your DS have the same reaction if he saw a girl wearing a superman dress up or a something equally 'boyish' as he would if he saw a boy wearing a dress? I'm guessing the answer is no.

    For some reason society seems to think it is ok for girls to take on traditional 'boy' behaviours but heaven forbid if a boy should take on 'girl' behaviours!! Oh no!! *Cue sky falling in*

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    How does a 6 year old even know the word lame?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    I have explained that everyone is differ at. Especially when the painting the nails topic came up when his friend was over.

    Once again you can not blame parenting for a boy thinking that another boy wearing a dress is wrong. Seeing as we have never seen this or spoken about it I can only think that society is what makes children like mine think it is 'lame'
    and you had the opportunity to teach him how society can be wrong, but you didn't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    I have explained that everyone is differ at. Especially when the painting the nails topic came up when his friend was over.

    Once again you can not blame parenting for a boy thinking that another boy wearing a dress is wrong. Seeing as we have never seen this or spoken about it I can only think that society is what makes children like mine think it is 'lame'
    As a parent you are afforded this wonderful opportunity to correct it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    Yes though do you not think society plays a part in that? Have a look at tv, cartoons and even toy sections in the shops. Are Barbies wrapped in bright blue packaging? Do you handbags have trucks in them or are either of those things in th boys you section?
    Yep it plays a huge part unfortunately and that is why, IMO its important that children are given access to the toys/clothes/tv shows/whatever that they would like to play with.
    FECK!!!! the (ridiculously labelled) boy and girl toy section.

    Society places boys and girls in 'sections' and labels as soon as they're born and it is our job as parents to let them be who they want to be, let them like what they like and also to teach them to be tolerant of others who may like different things.

    The teasing will always be there if no-one makes an effort to change it, it is really sad that some boys can't wear what they like because of what other people think.
    There was a time when girls and women were judged for wearing pants, imagine if instead of fighting for their rights they just thought eh, it is the way it is!?

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    Of course you can blame parents. The proof is in the pudding.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    You can not alwys blame the child an the parent.

    For my son to think it is lame for a boy to wear a dress. This is not becUse I have sat him down and told him that's how it is.

    Intact we have never talked about boys wearing dresses. Why would I bring that up out of no where?

    We have talked extensively about billing. A friend of mine has a son in kindy who got punched and called a baby becUse he wore a power ranger costume to school. I talked to my ds about this and explained how bullying of any kind is not acceptable.

    My ds showed compassion and asked why he doesn't change school and said "that's not very nice"


    Its good to explain that bullying of any kind isnt acceptable.. but young children may not know the definition of "any kind" they may just think just teasing about power rangers costumes is bullying but not name calling or put downs.

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