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    So do we just prevent our children from being individuals for fear of being bullied? Let the bullies win? Blossompossum, you have said that you wouldn't allow your own son to wear a dress because he will "get teased". But like you said, children tease one another for everything anyway, so where do you draw the line in order to protect him? What if he expressed desire to wear girls clothes, would you encourage him to supress that desire because society may not accept that? What is that teaching him? Be a sheep, follow the flock and don't dare show any form of individuality because you don't want to "set him up" to be bullied... ???
    Again, you said it, kids tease for anything- the wrong brand name, wearing glasses, being overweight etc etc..

    When my DS was little, he carried around a Dora the explorer doll, had a pink play toy kitchen and asked to paint his nails all the time. He wasn't interested in wearing girls clothes, but if he had expressed an interest I would have happily allowed it. His thing was dressing up as a magician, Micheal Jackson or wearing a fake groucho moustache in public

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    Of course society plays a part. And I find it so fecking irritating. Why do little girls have to wear frilly pink tinker bell dresses? The whole thing is irritating.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    What signs does a 6 year old show that indicated they may be transgender? Wearing dresses, carrying handbags and painting their nails?
    This seems somewhat flippant but anyway..

    I have worked with several families with children in lower primary who have began to present as transgender. This has been identified and the families have worked with the schools and children' hospital psychologists to assist in managing this.

    Some reading on transgender children...

    http://www.helpstartshere.org/kids-f...ansgender.html

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    In response to beebs I would be dissapointed. Not for me but for him.

    I'm sure living life as a transgender is not a wall in the park.
    But it needn't be difficult. Who makes it difficult? People who call them lame, that's who.

    You may have missed my earlier question: did you take the opportunity to correct your son?

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    My son does dancing. Ballet, modern, etc.

    Here is a pic of him at his dance concert today

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    Quote Originally Posted by mama and her little bear View Post
    'It is lame and if I saw a boy wearing a dress that is all I would SAY'

    Yes he would say it :/
    And he DID say it, he said it to his mum
    And as far as 'never having had that conversation before' well, you just had that conversation. I'd say it went pretty poorly in terms of teaching tolerance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    Yes though do you not think society plays a part in that? Have a look at tv, cartoons and even toy sections in the shops. Are Barbies wrapped in bright blue packaging? Do you handbags have trucks in them or are either of those things in th boys you section?
    The colour on toy packaging and the whereabouts of particular toys in a toy shop don't judge or tease children.

    That's entirely down to other children and the parents who allowed them to be like that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    You can not alwys blame the child an the parent.

    For my son to think it is lame for a boy to wear a dress. This is not becUse I have sat him down and told him that's how it is.
    Yet when given the opportunity to correct him it appears you did not.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    In response to beebs I would be dissapointed. Not for me but for him.

    I'm sure living life as a transgender is not a wall in the park.

    I would not be in denial about it. I would see whatever specialist and did out exact how my son was feeling and go from there.
    Not sure if anyone has posted this already but BP this is worth watching. It goes for 13 minutes. The interview with Emma's best friend is reassuring that not all children are cruel and judge.

    http://video.au.msn.com/watch/video/emma/xblr97p

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    Re blaming the parents BP. THere is a way to deal with things and a way not to. If your child says someone is "lame" for wearing a dress, you can either say "everyone is different, clothes don't matter, as long as the kid is happy who cares" or you can say nothing. And that is just as bad as agreeing or encouraging.

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