So do we just prevent our children from being individuals for fear of being bullied? Let the bullies win? Blossompossum, you have said that you wouldn't allow your own son to wear a dress because he will "get teased". But like you said, children tease one another for everything anyway, so where do you draw the line in order to protect him? What if he expressed desire to wear girls clothes, would you encourage him to supress that desire because society may not accept that? What is that teaching him? Be a sheep, follow the flock and don't dare show any form of individuality because you don't want to "set him up" to be bullied... ???
Again, you said it, kids tease for anything- the wrong brand name, wearing glasses, being overweight etc etc..
When my DS was little, he carried around a Dora the explorer doll, had a pink play toy kitchen and asked to paint his nails all the time. He wasn't interested in wearing girls clothes, but if he had expressed an interest I would have happily allowed it. His thing was dressing up as a magician, Micheal Jackson or wearing a fake groucho moustache in public